Welcome to the show I'm Jordan Harbinger as always I'm here with my producer Jason to filipo in today's conversation we're talking with my friend Gabriel miss Rocky is also the head of editorial here on the Jordan Harbinger show today a popular topic that seems to be almost cliche and frankly is often miss handled by what I consider to be him handed self help experts if we can even call them that the topic is vulnerability but not the fake scripted vulnerability that we see so much of these days especially on social

media or elsewhere online we're talking about real authentic vulnerability this episode might sound fluffy I assure you it is not we are going to include some of the human hacking and people reading we teach to high level executives military intelligence agencies in this episode here so get ready to take some notes today we'll discover different types of vulnerability such as tactical and authentic vulnerability will also explore how to break out of the empty unfulfilling and

vulnerability that seems to be so popular these days and we'll learn how to cultivate the right kind of connections with others and for ourselves we'll also learn how to spot these different types of vulnerability in others as well as in ourselves which makes it easier for us to decode other people's intentions that's great for protecting ourselves against people with an agenda that might not have our best interests in mind we're also going to be talking a lot about this vulnerability stuff at our advanced human dynamics live events so if you're coming to those

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I talk about here about vulnerability with Gabriel Ms. Rahi that link is in the show notes at Jordan Harbinger dot com slash podcast all right let's talk vulnerability

so Jordan you recently told me a story about a really strange dinner party that you went to I thought it was a really interesting moment that you stumbled into and I felt like what happened at that dinner party

was kind of a window into a strange thing that's happening not just at like cool trendy dinner parties but kind of in the self help world at large so I thought maybe you could tell us about this dinner party and then we could explore it together and see if we can figure anything out about the way people are connecting right now tell us what happened

yeah so this is just very symptomatic of I think like you said trendy dinner parties where first of all we're all seated everyone's kind of feeling like okay we just met all these new people

and then in an effort to I guess get everyone to force connect was the host who was like all right everybody go around and talk about the one thing that they're really struggling with right now

okay so pause paint as a picture where are you right now right so where this guy's house in LA in LA of course and naturally on the west side and all these people who get together are kind of like influencer

retyed people or artsy people which is good it's a good crowd right and we're all kind of mixing normally you know people have drinks in their hand whatever it's still before this happens yeah it's not like all right everybody sit down the bell rings the kids are sitting in class

but it almost became that way when we sat down because instead of just being able to talk to the person who you set next to who you'd already connected with a little bit before it was kind of like okay

almost like a science seats I don't know if there were a science seats but I remember the host rear ranging as a little bit which I thought was weird but it felt like that right and felt like so he's kind of stopped the dinner party the way I remember it and kind of just was like now we are going to enter an exercise right right

so tell us about the exercise life coachy so the exercise was share one thing you're struggling with right now which is fine if you want to get people to introduce themselves you can say like hey everyone let's go

on the table do the name thing case you didn't catch somebody or you need a refresher talk about what they do that wasn't what this was no this was different yeah this was like talk about some secret so that people feel closer to you and it was incredibly awkward people were saying things like well this

thing is going on right now this thing happened to me recently or this is what I'm working on right now but the host definitely it was one of those like tell me this tell me something off the

cuff and then the host was like here's this pre scripted thing that I practice in the mirror 85 tell right like he kicked off by saying like I'll go first sure yeah but his thing is like prepared yeah he has like a

polished little story right and it was kind of like the Michael Scott tell me what your biggest weaknesses oh my biggest weaknesses I have no weaknesses something like that it was

kind of like what's going on with you I'm feeling really vulnerable about this thing that happened that makes me look really deep introspective kind all these positive qualities and then it's like all right person on my left tell us about your divorce go

and you're like oh I'm failing in my life right now yeah tell us about your divorce and then it's like oh cool well that doesn't make you look good and you didn't have time to

polish the delivery and by the way we're all strangers so you you described as awkward yes did everybody else feel that way or did only you feel that way it was hard to tell I really think that

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