#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

Modern Wisdom

Chris Williamson

Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 4.6K Ratings

🗓️ 21 April 2025

⏱️ 123 minutes

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Arthur Brooks is a social scientist, professor at Harvard University, and an author. Can romance and love be decoded? From falling in and out of love to finding “the one,” what does the science say about what makes someone a good partner, best friend, and lifelong companion? Expect to learn if men need marriage more than women do, why women tend to leave bad relationships faster than men, why falling in love makes us do crazy things, what the brain chemistry of love is, if we should be careful about who we let ourselves fall in love with, how you can tell if you’re a compatible romantic partner, but not a compatible best friend, how to overcome contempt and insecurity in a relationship and much more… Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Get a 20% discount on Nomatic’s amazing luggage at https://nomatic.com/modernwisdom Get the best bloodwork analysis in America at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom Get a Free Sample Pack of all LMNT Flavours with your first purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom Get $350 off the Pod 4 Ultra at https://eightsleep.com/modernwisdom Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: #577 - David Goggins - This Is How To Master Your Life: https://tinyurl.com/43hv6y59 #712 - Dr Jordan Peterson - How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs: https://tinyurl.com/2rtz7avf #700 - Dr Andrew Huberman - The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain: https://tinyurl.com/3ccn5vkp - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	I think if I was to give myself the three traits that I've managed to hold on to, I pay a lot of attention to detail. I have an unusual capacity for suffering or doing a delaying gratification might be an easy way to put it. And I'm just consistent. And those three things seem to be like pretty fucking potent fuel,
0:22.5	no matter what industry you try and get into. Yeah, but then of course there's the natural level
0:27.0	of curiosity, high level of cognitive ability, right? I mean, those are table stakes, though. That's your
0:31.9	point, right? You've got to have that to play the game. Yeah. Yeah. Because otherwise, you have
0:36.7	that to play the game, but then when things are slow at the very
0:39.6	beginning, that's when you stop your podcast.
0:41.8	Right.
0:42.3	And you didn't.
0:43.0	A lot of questions come through from people who say stuff like, hey, man, in the
0:47.4	beginning, when you didn't have any plays or anything, like, you know, what motivated
0:50.9	you to keep going? To be honest, my motivation waned way more
0:55.1	instead of your three and four and five.
0:57.1	Because you're getting bored.
0:58.2	Yeah, it's like, well, I've been there.
1:00.2	There's, there's, you're trying to inject novelty into what you do.
1:04.6	And you're trying to, even less than that, you're just trying to not let it get stale.
1:08.5	And, you know, how many books deep are you now? Uh, 15.
1:16.7	14 and 15 are coming out in the next year. Uh, there's a new one about meaning. The one that's
1:21.3	coming up about meaning is coming out one year from the 14th. Unreal. April 14th. I'm so fired up for that.
1:26.0	I've been thinking about me. I remember I read this, Roy Baumeister.
1:29.3	Yeah.
1:30.3	Buddy mine.
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