Julie Menanno is on the show today, sitting down with Sabrina to talk about the interplay of attachment and relationships. Julie emphasizes that healthy relationships aren't about accommodating each other's insecurities or avoiding triggers but about engaging in mutual growth and healing. She and Sabrina challenge the narrative that one must lower their expectations or avoid partners who trigger them. Instead, they advocate for using those triggers as opportunities for personal and relational growth. A crucial part of building a secure relationship involves self-work—being emotionally balanced, recognizing and regulating your own emotions, and being able to reach out for support when it’s needed. Julie highlights the importance of feeling seen and heard in a relationship, as well as the need for both partners to be committed to growth and co-regulation during conflicts. Drawing from her own experience, she shares how communication, expressing needs, and working through challenges together have been key to maintaining a strong relationship. Today’s conversation underscores that a secure relationship, while more comfortable, requires ongoing effort, self-awareness, and the ability to repair and grow together, especially in the face of life's inevitable stresses and traumas. Get Julie's Book 'Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime' Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Get Ad free and 2 Bonus episodes a month HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formally known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices