90% of Couples Who Got a Divorce Had This One Issue

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

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Christianity, Default, Religion & Spirituality, Talk Radio

4.8 • 808 Ratings

🗓️ 25 July 2018

⏱️ 32 minutes

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Summary

Did you know that conflict can break your relationship, but it can also make it? You can't avoid conflict, but the way you handle it is key. "Conflict is the price we pay for a deeper level of intimacy." (Tweet it!) That was the seriously-best-ever nugget of wisdom that Dr. Les Parrott (my good friend, and psychologist + New York Times Bestselling relationship author) had to say on this episode of the podcast. After answering my listener question about how she should deal with conflict in her brand-new-marriage, I knew there would be no one better to chat with than Dr. Parrot, leading expert in the area of conflict. Because how you handle conflict tells me a lot about your relationships. In fact, in this episode, I tell you about an out-of-this-world research study that was able to prove with 90% ACCURACY, which couples would stay together and which couples would get divorced based on how they fought. That's no joke. But the good news is that we also talk about what it takes to be successful in this important area of your life. Your fight style is key to the success of your relationships...so you better learn how to fight well. Because conflict can also lead to greater intimacy, if you know how to manage it in a healthy way. Give this episode (31 minutes) a quick listen, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God's best for relationships...because conflict is the price you pay for a deeper level of intimacy (Tweet it!) Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Tune in to today's show to hear licensed counselor, Debra Fileta, as she answers her caller through this unscripted conversation in Episode 003 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: You heard us mention the importance of knowing yourself on today's show. There are so many aspects to your personality and your fight style is one of those things. Take the YADA assessment and learn more about your personality, your relationships style, your approach to conflict, and so much more: CLICK HERE TO TAKE THE YADA ASSESSMENT NOW! Learn more about your communication patterns, as well as strategies to navigate conflict in a healthy way, including the Speaker-Listener technique mentioned on the show in Chapters 2 & 3 of Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me Learn how to attract and keep a healthy dating relationships in True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hey everyone. Welcome back to the Love and Relationships podcast. I'm your host, Deborah
0:22.4	Felita, and it's so great to be together again and chat about all things love, sex, dating,
0:28.1	marriage, and singleness. For those of you who don't know me, I'm a licensed professional
0:32.7	counselor and author specializing in relationship issues, and I'm here to take your relationship questions.
0:40.1	I've written hundreds of relationship articles across the internet and my relationship advice blog,
0:44.8	True Love Dates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships.
0:50.3	And that's really what I'm passionate about.
0:58.1	Thank you. and that's really what I'm passionate about. Today we're talking about something every single person will experience in their relationships.
1:04.0	Conflict. It could be with a spouse, a friend, a family member, or a coworker.
1:10.7	Conflict is inevitable, but how we handle conflict is what
1:15.4	makes or breaks our relationships. We're going to start the show with a newlywed caller,
1:22.0	who's looking for some practical advice about how to approach conflict and her marriage.
1:26.7	And then later, we've got an extra
1:28.6	special guest, one of my favorite psychologists and number one New York Times best-selling author,
1:35.3	Dr. Les Parrott, who's going to help us learn the best practices for dealing with conflict
1:40.8	and relationships. We've got a great show plan today, so let me introduce you to our
1:46.1	first caller. Today we have joining us, Latoya from Virginia. Hi, Latoya. Hello, how are you,
1:54.2	Deborah? Good. And if I hear correctly, you are a newlywed. I am. I was married last year, November 25th of 2017, so I am a newbie.
2:05.7	That is awesome. That's so exciting. We should have had your husband join us, maybe next time.
2:11.4	I know he's at work too. That's awesome. Well, I would love to go ahead and dig into your question. What do you have for me today?
2:19.7	Well, my question is, my husband calls me mis sarcastic. I'm working on it. But sometimes we're
2:27.6	in a midst of like a conversation or in many debate. I have a habit of having a quick rebuttal instead of listening to understand.
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