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Shameless Leadership

873: Change This Internal Feedback Loop to Gain Self-Trust

Shameless Leadership

Sara Dean

Education, Management, How To, Business, Self-improvement

4.7800 Ratings

🗓️ 13 May 2024

⏱️ 28 minutes

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Summary

Women often find themselves grappling with a complex and sometimes sticky relationship with self-trust. From a young age, we are subtly conditioned to doubt our own instincts and inner knowing. This societal conditioning seeps into our subconscious, creating a disconnect from our innate self-trust and inner knowing that persists throughout our lives. The erosion of self-trust often sets off a cascade of detrimental effects on our well-being. We find ourselves trapped in internal feedback loops that echo with damaging self-talk: “I’m not good enough.” “I’m not worthy of success or love.” “I must not be trying hard enough.” "Everyone else seems to have it all figured out, why can't I?" “No one really cares about what I think or feel.” These thoughts become our default narrative, undermining our confidence and distorting our perceptions of reality. The cycle perpetuates, reinforcing the belief that we are inherently flawed or inadequate. Do any of these sentiments resonate with you? In this episode, I aim to guide you through a common dysfunctional feedback loop, shedding light on its mechanisms and implications. Then I will walk you through a more healthy and productive feedback loop—one rooted in self-compassion, empowerment, and trust. My hope is that by unraveling the patterns of self-doubt and negative social narratives, you can begin to reclaim your inherent self-trust and rewrite the script of your self-narrative, allowing you to embrace your worthiness and reshape the way you perceive yourself and your capabilities. Link mentioned: SMA Ep 391: Why Moms Lack Self-Trust https://shamelessmom.com/episode/why-moms-lack-self-trust/ We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://shamelessmom.com/sponsor Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

This is the Shameless Mom Academy episode 8773.

0:07.8

In this greatest hits episode, we are talking about one of my very favorite things, self-trust.

0:13.0

Show notes for this episode, including any links mentioned in the episode, can be found by going

0:16.7

to shamelessmom.com and clicking on episode 873.

0:24.9

Welcome to the Shameless Mom Academy.

0:26.9

I'm your host, Sarah Dean.

0:28.5

I'm here to give you and other passionate, driven, unapologetic moms, stories, tools,

0:34.0

resources, and a little bit of humor to help you lead more powerful, positive,

0:38.1

and purposeful lives every damn day. So let's dive in. Now let's do a little bit of a review

0:48.3

why women lose self-trust and then how to get it back and then how we build it. So what I want to talk about with this is women lose self-trust and then how to get it back and then how we build it. So what I want to talk about

0:55.5

with this is women lose self-trust because we are taught from such an early age not to trust

1:01.0

ourselves. We are taught to trust grown-ups, which obviously is important. Like when you trust

1:06.5

your parents to, you know, not let you run across the street in traffic, that's important,

1:10.6

right? When you trust your parents to provide you with, you know, appropriate caregivers,

1:14.3

that's important. When you trust your parents when they say, like, don't eat that thing that's

1:17.5

poisonous, all of that is very important. But the thing is when we also trust adults who say things

1:24.1

like, oh, you're such a pretty little girl and you should, you know, you look best in a dress.

1:28.5

Then we trust that over like, hey, but I really like to wear the brown corduroy pants.

1:32.9

And we trust grownups who say like, you know, Uncle Tommy's, he's a really great friend

1:39.2

and he's a safe person to keep secrets with.

1:41.7

And that's not always true.

1:42.9

So we lose early on this ability to

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