871: I’m A Really Bad Friend Right Now

Shameless Leadership

Sara Dean

Education, Management, How To, Business, Self-improvement

4.7 • 800 Ratings

🗓️ 6 May 2024

⏱️ 31 minutes

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Summary

The title of this episode might have some of you judging me. I get it. Before you judge, hear me out… A few years ago, I listened to the book FINISH by Jon Acuff. Then, I read the hard copy. Then, I chose the book for the book club inside our SMA membership community. I loved (and still love) this book. The book is all about how to finish the things you start. One of Jon’s tools in finishing your top priority goals or action items is to simultaneously “choose what to bomb”. Sometimes, if you need to get the big, important things done you have to let yourself completely fail in other areas. As I find myself in this season of working full time while, navigating month 11 of my husband’s unemployment, being a grad school student, and intense parenting (friends… nobody warned me about 11!), I’m having to choose to bomb some things. And, being a social butterfly is one of them. I am saying no to things I really want to do with people I really want to spend time with because this is the only way to protect my time and sanity. It’s hard to set and hold these boundaries, but it’s really necessary in this season of life. In this episode, I talk through how to choose what to bomb when life is a lot and something’s got to give. I also talk you through how to bomb things in a way that doesn’t make you feel like you’re being a horrible person. I know the truth is that I’m a very good friend - even if I’m not the greatest friend right now. I’m guessing the same is true for you. Link mentioned: Book: FINISH by Jon Acuff We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://shamelessmom.com/sponsor Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	This is the Shameless Mom Academy, episode 8771. Show notes for this episode, including any links
0:06.4	mentioned in the episode, can be found by going to shamelessmom.com and clicking on episode 871.
0:16.3	Welcome to the Shameless Mom Academy. I'm your host, Sarah Dean. I'm here to give you and other
0:21.8	passionate, driven, unapologetic moms, stories, tools, resources, and a little bit of humor to help you lead more powerful,
0:29.6	positive, and purposeful lives every damn day. So let's dive in.
0:38.2	Hello, shameless moms.
0:40.2	I'm excited to talk about this topic today.
0:42.5	So we're going to be talking about being a bad friend.
0:45.0	And when you saw this title, you might have been like, wait, what?
0:49.6	Sarah's just joyfully being a bad friend right now.
0:53.4	That seems incongruent with her values. So here's the thing.
0:58.9	Since starting school in the last six weeks and having just a lot on my plate, I had this
1:05.6	realization that I might have to be a bad friend to survive this season of life. That sounds awful. I totally get it,
1:14.4	but I think if you listen, this is going to make sense. And I actually think that some of you
1:18.4	are going to be like, oh, wow, I could give myself permission to be a bad friend for a bit.
1:23.7	And that could cause a lot of relief and also ultimately make me a better friend in the long
1:29.1	run. So let me explain before you're like super confused and think I'm just a horrible person now.
1:34.4	So I, a couple of years ago, read the book, listened to the book and then led a book club
1:39.5	on the book, finished by John Aikoff. And John Aikov, he's a hilarious writer. He does a lot of work in the
1:45.6	personal development space. And he was talking about how to help people finish things. So he had
1:50.0	another book called Start. And he was like, what I realized is that people often don't need help
1:54.9	starting things. They need help finishing things. And so every chapter in the book of Finish
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