83. 3 Hugely Unpopular Life Decisions That Lead to Huge Success

The Suzanne Venker Show

Suzanne Venker

Society & Culture

4.9 • 650 Ratings

🗓️ 7 February 2021

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Summary

So I had a coaching session recently w a gal who, on her intake form, wrote that she'd read my 2011 book, How to Choose a Husband—which, as a side note, is being re-released this year under a new title with a new intro—and that when she came across the passage that said 'Put marriage and motherhood, not career, at the center of your life, and fit everything else in around that,' she thought to herself, "OMG, is it really okay to want that?"

Not only is it okay to want that, it's crucial that that's what marriage-minded women do do if they want to be successful in life and in love.

You have to think outside the cultural box, and you must to think long term. If you fly by the seat of your pants or live your life on auto pilot, it will be much harder down the line to get what you want out of life. Instead, live purposefully and mindfully.

The choices we make early on have a domino effect and will land you in a place you either want to be or don't want to be.

Here are 3 hugely unpopular life decisions that lead to huge success:

1. Choose a career based on your future family plans.

2. Marry younger.

3. Don't make financial decisions based on two incomes.

IN THIS EPISODE:

4:25 To be successful in life, men and women need to think differently and be comfortable with thinking differently

6:30 Suzanne tells the story of her mother

8:00 Think outside of the box and plan ahead. This is the key to making smart decisions for life and love

10:00 Choose a career based on your future family plans.

10:40 Suzanne talks about her decisions regarding wanting a family and how she mapped out her life

12:00 “Ambition” doesn’t always have to do with money

12:40 Your family is only as strong as your marriage

16:30 Suzanne talks about why her first marriage failed

18:15 Why marrying younger is better

21:00 You can never really totally “balance” work and family. You need to know how you’re going to deal with this!

22:45 Men also need to choose a path that works for them regarding career and family

24:30 The culture doesn't pay attention to the tough choices men have to make

25:00 Don't make financial decisions based on two incomes

Transcript

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0:00.0	From the magnificent Midwest, it's the Suzanne Venker Show, where men and women are equal in value, but wildly different by nature.
0:21.5	Join us here every week when we challenge the culture's hugely flawed narratives about men, women, sex, and love. From
0:27.4	to coast and from around the world, thank you for joining us. So real quickly, I want to talk to you
0:33.8	guys about cancel culture.
0:42.2	If you're anything like me, you see the shutting down of voices that don't comply with the PC narrative and feel helpless to do anything about it.
0:46.8	So I'm just going to give you an example of an email I received the other day from the
0:51.2	Gurian Institute.
0:53.5	And it essentially explained how they wrote a meme, or created a meme, that, for both Twitter and Facebook, just for social media.
1:06.8	And it says here, in an effort to bring awareness to programs that exist for women and do not exist for men, G.I.B.M., which is the Gurian Institute for Boys and Men, released the following meme on Twitter to address some of the programs that support women and continue to ignore the needs of men. And it got a lot of, like 70,000 impressions.
1:30.0	So then they boosted this same meme on Facebook. And it started to gain some traction.
1:35.6	And it said, unfortunately, Facebook rejected the boosted meme after initially accepting it.
1:42.7	The meme was not removed from our Facebook page,
1:45.2	but Facebook decided they would not continue the boost.
1:48.0	And then they provided this generic response
1:50.2	as to why they neglected or why they're failing to boost it further.
1:55.6	One of which was, quote,
1:57.0	your ad may have been rejected if it mentions sensitive social issues that could influence
2:03.6	public opinion or how people vote and may impact the outcome of an election, which of course,
2:12.5	I had to laugh. It's not funny, but I had to laugh because I'm thinking that's exactly what the
2:16.7	media does every day, right?
2:18.3	Influences the entire country's brain as to how they should not just vote, but think.
2:25.3	And so basically Facebook is saying, you know, you can't do that here, you know, but we can do that elsewhere.
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