787. Why Being “Good” Is Hurting You: How To Choose Yourself + Be Free

Almost 30

Krista Williams & Lindsey Simcik

Alternative Health, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

4.5 • 4K Ratings

🗓️ 7 August 2025

⏱️ 73 minutes

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In this episode, Lindsey welcomes bestselling author Amber Rae for a soul-baring convo about breaking free from the cages we build for ourselves—yes, even the beautiful ones. Get ready for real talk on self-abandonment, “good girl” programming, and honoring your deepest desires. Ahead, Amber opens up about her journey from a nine-year marriage built on comfort (not chemistry), to a cosmic soulmate encounter that woke up her spirit + shattered everything she knew about love. Plus, hear confessions about new motherhood + breaking generational cycles. Amber reveals why facing discomfort is the key to living your wildest, most liberated life—the one you’ve held secret in your heart for so long. Consider this your permission slip to question your programming, set yourself free, and start healing in every direction—lineage, love, and beyond. We also talk about: How the “good girl” myth keeps women small Performing in relationships vs. living your truth Soul connections: how to trust your intuition when lightning strikes Why abandoning yourself to please others never works Healing generational wounds—and how your growth liberates your lineage Navigating shame, criticism, and judgment in the pursuit of authenticity Real talk about therapy: calling out performative patterns Coping with overwhelm as a new mom, writer, and creator Learning to let go of control—and letting partners (and life) surprise you Resources: Order Loveable out August 5th Website: https://www.amberrae.com/ Instagram: @heyamberrae Order our book, Almost 30: A Definitive Guide To A Life You Love For The Next Decade and Beyond, here: http://bit.ly/Almost30Book. Sponsors: LMNT | Go to DrinkLMNT.com/ALMOST30 and get a free sample pack with any order. That’s 8 single serving packets FREE with any LMNT order. Ritual | Get 25% off your first month for a limited time at ritual.com/ALMOST30. Chime | Open your account in 2 minutes at chime.com/almost30. IQ Bar | Get 20% off all IQBAR products, plus get FREE shipping. Just text ALMOST to 64000 to get your discount. Ka’Chava | Go to kachava.com and use code ALMOST30 for 15% off your next order. To advertise on this podcast please email: ⁠partnerships@almost30.com⁠. Learn More: almost30.com/about almost30.com/morningmicrodose almost30.com/book Join our community: facebook.com/Almost30podcast/groups instagram.com/almost30podcast tiktok.com/@almost30podcast youtube.com/Almost30Podcast Podcast disclaimer can be found by visiting: almost30.com/disclaimer. Find more to love at almost30.com! Almost 30 is edited by Garett Symes and Isabella Vaccaro. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:10.9	have a ton of time to shop. You know what I mean? It's my go-to for everyday basics, for date
0:17.0	nights, for vacations, weddings, and those like I have nothing to wear moments. If I want to have a glow up to my closet, I know exactly where I'm heading. And what I love most about Revolve is how easy they make it. I'll hop on Revolve.com and instantly see curated edits for exactly what I'm shopping for. Like, fall just hit, and I'm looking for some fall fashion. Like, I need to be inspired. I want to see what's out there, what's new, what's hot, what's hot for me, you know what I mean? And they have an edit for that. So I was like, oh, this makes it so easy. They have over 1,200 brands and 100,000 styles from Hilsa to lovers and friends, Norma Kamali, A Goldie, free people, you name it. New arrivals drop daily, and the recommended for you section feels like my personal
0:56.6	stylist pulling pieces I didn't even know I needed.
0:58.8	So right now, I wanted to just shout out what I have in my card.
1:05.1	I actually just pressed the order button.
1:08.5	So excited.
1:09.5	So I am currently getting this cute set. It's not even a set,
1:14.2	but like it goes together well from Hilsa, their paperbag trouser in gray malange. And then this
1:19.4	really beautiful same color. It's called the left bank layered shirt. You guys, this look is chic.
1:25.7	So chic. Also, I have the Trino boot on the way it's from at p
1:31.0	itp attelier i am so excited about these these are my investment piece for the season in terms of shoes
1:36.1	and then i have the helsa classic oversized trench coming in the burgundy color oh my god it's
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