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We Can Do Hard Things

74. ALOK: What makes us beautiful? What makes us free?

We Can Do Hard Things

Glennon Doyle & Audacy

Society & Culture, Relationships, Education, Self-improvement

4.841.1K Ratings

🗓️ 1 March 2022

⏱️ 61 minutes

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Summary

“The days that I feel most beautiful are the days that I am most afraid.” “What feminine part of yourself did you have to destroy in order to survive in this world?” “Why have we been taught to fear the very things that can set us free?” About ALOK: ALOK (they/them) is an internationally acclaimed writer, performer, and public speaker. As a mixed-media artist their work explores themes of trauma, belonging, and the human condition. They are the author of Femme in Public (2017), Beyond the Gender Binary (2020), and Your Wound/My Garden (2021). They are the creator of #DeGenderFashion: a movement to degender fashion and beauty industries and have been honored as one of HuffPo’s Culture Shifters, NBC’s Pride 50, and Business Insider’s Doers. Instagram: @alokvmenon To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0

To be loved, we need to be known.

0:07.1

Okay, love bugs.

0:09.9

Welcome back to We Can Do Hard Things.

0:13.1

I just need you to be in a place today where you can really, really listen because we

0:21.3

have sort of a heart, mind-shifting conversation here for you today.

0:29.1

You know, untamed and most of my struggle in life and work is about trying to figure out

0:36.0

who I am, free from all the cages that culture built for me to spend my one life inside

0:43.6

of.

0:45.4

So for all of us who are kind of on this freedom quest, a look, I think of as a profit

0:55.0

calling to us from the wilderness, showing us.

0:58.8

Not just how it's possible to break free of gender binaries, but how it's possible

1:02.6

to see and break free from every socially constructed binary that does not allow us to

1:08.9

live out our full humanity, our divinity, our infinite creativity and possibility.

1:17.2

So what I want to insist to you is that the next hour of our lives is not about us understanding

1:27.8

a look, but it's about us allowing a look to help us understand ourselves and the situation

1:37.0

in which we find each other and ourselves down here.

1:41.6

So a look is an internationally acclaimed writer, performer and public speaker as a mixed

1:48.4

media artist that work explores themes of trauma, belonging and the human condition.

1:54.4

They were born July 1st, 1991, so that was like last year, right, we're so sick.

2:04.2

So hopefully a look is three in college station, Texas and grew up as the child of, can you

2:14.0

say this for me, Malayali and Punjabi.

2:18.0

Thank you, immigrant parents from Malaysia and India, a look graduated at the top of their

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