64. “My boyfriend is perfect… except he’s broke” (Part 1)

Money For Couples

Ramit Sethi

Relationships, Society & Culture, Investing, Business

4.6 • 3.1K Ratings

🗓️ 11 October 2022

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

Connie and Wes have been dating for a year—but they have some very serious issues with how they see money, both individually and as a couple. The story to keep in mind: Connie’s mom earned considerably more money than her dad, but he always paid for family meals. Fairytales like this complicate how we deal with money later in life. As such, the power of archaic and illogical gender roles is the big theme that we try to untangle in this one. We need to call out the cultural expectations held between Connie and Wes to make room for a healthier dynamic. Don’t miss the dramatic cliffhanger ending that will leave your jaw on the floor as you wait for the fallout of part two, dropping next week. Connect with Ramit Website Instagram Twitter Facebook YouTube Linkedin If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here. Produced by Crate Media.

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0:00.0	Before we get to today's episode, you know I'm out there buying a bunch of different
0:04.0	tools and little gadgets to try to find out little ways to make my life more convenient.
0:09.6	This Saturday, I want to share three of my favorites.
0:12.2	Here's one of them.
0:13.2	I'm going to tell you what it is on this issue of my podcast newsletter and each of these
0:18.4	three tools is under $25.
0:21.4	So to find out the three tools I use that make my life more convenient, much easier, go
0:25.9	to iwt.com slash podcast newsletter.
0:29.3	You can only get this issue at iwt.com slash podcast newsletter.
0:36.1	The story that I grew up with is in a regular romantic relationship.
0:41.1	The man is chivalrous and when the bill comes that bill is always going to go to the man
0:45.5	and he's going to pick it up and pay it.
0:48.3	So when we're out of dinner and the check comes and I want to pick it up in her mind, it
0:56.9	isn't a good financial decision for me.
0:59.7	So it's kind of a, it's kind of a catch 22 because I'm expected to pick up the check
1:03.8	but at the same time when I do, it's kind of, you should be doing that because I don't
1:08.0	think you can afford it.
1:09.1	I often feel like, well, what am I even bringing to the table here?
1:14.9	Connie said that our biggest relationship issue was, the biggest thing holding our relationship
1:20.7	back was money and so with where I am there, it's like, you know, why am I even, sometimes
1:25.9	I even ask, well, why, why, why even, why even date somebody with such a huge discrepancy
1:30.1	with money?
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