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The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk

636: William Von Hippel - Why We Need Both Autonomy and Connection to Find Happiness (The Social Paradox)

The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk

Ryan Hawk

Careers, Management, Business

4.81.3K Ratings

🗓️ 18 May 2025

⏱️ 61 minutes

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William von Hippel grew up in Alaska, got his B.A. at Yale and his PhD at the University of Michigan, and taught for a dozen years at Ohio State University before finding his way to Australia, where he is a professor of psychology at the University of Queensland. He’s the author of multiple books. A few months ago, he published The Social Paradox: Autonomy, Connection, and Why We Need Both to Find Happiness.

Notes

 

  • Why do people who have comfortable lives filled with freedom and abundance still feel unhappy? Need two things… Connection and autonomy.
  • Are leaders born or made? Yes. Like most things, it’s not a black and white answer. The key is to use your unique strengths to effectively inspire others to do the work that must be done to achieve the goals of the team or company.
  • How happy is Bill? He scores high on the genetics polygene(?) score. Some people are more genetically wired to be happy than others.
  • You can fight against your genes and win. It’s just harder for you than others with better genetics. What’s my path of genetic least resistance? If you have low willpower, get the potato chips out of the house. Know yourself.
  • Be yourself plus 20%. Overconfidence can be a good thing. Especially earlier in your career.
  • Fake it til you make it. It can be good a lot of the time. He was overconfident as a new assistant professor, and it helped him.
  • How you receive feedback is critical.
  • Be honest, be kind
  • His dad moved the family to Alaska because he didn’t love being told what to do. He was a heart surgeon.
  • Bill moved to Australia. A hard place to make friends because they don’t move around much. He made connections with others who had moved there from out of the country.
  • Life/Career advice: Too many choices can be bad. What are the elements of a job that I enjoy? What are my strengths?
  • Leaders - It’s lonely at the top. You need a group you can trust and enjoy their company. Google study - They do everything in teams. What’s needed? Psychological safety. You need to be able to disagree with each other. Give feedback. It’s on the leader to create healthy disagreement. And receive feedback in a way that encourages more of it.
  • I was surprised by how much of our happiness, health, and strength were based purely on our genetics. Some people are just born happier, healthier, and stronger than you. It doesn’t mean you can’t be happy, healthy, or strong. It just means that you need to work harder to make it happen. That’s life!

Transcript

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0:00.0

This episode is brought to you by Insight Global. I love the leadership team and the people at Insight Global.

0:07.6

Insight Global is a staffing and professional services company dedicated to being the light to the world around them.

0:14.7

If you need to hire one person, hire a team of people, or transform your business through talent or technical services, Insight

0:22.4

Global's team of 30,000 people around the world have the hustle and grit to deliver.

0:30.0

Hiring can be tough, but hiring the right person can be magic.

0:35.0

Visit Insightglobal.com slash learning leader today to learn more. That's Insightglobal.com

0:41.4

slash learning leader. Welcome to the Learning Leader show. I am your host, Brian Hawk.

0:52.8

Go to learningleader.com for all show notes.

0:59.1

Now, on to tonight's featured leader William Bon Hipple.

1:03.6

Grew up in Alaska, got his undergraduate degree at Yale, and his PhD at the University of Michigan,

1:09.5

and taught for a dozen years at Ohio State

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University before finding his way to Australia where he is a professor of psychology at the

1:19.8

University of Queensland. He's also the author of multiple books including The Social Paradox,

1:32.1

autonomy, connection, and why we need both to find happiness during our conversation we discuss, why people who have comfortable lives full of

1:39.1

abundance and freedom are still unhappy. And what we can do to change that. Then Bill shares his thoughts on the

1:49.0

quote, fake it till you make it mentality and how it could actually be good for you. This part

1:55.9

surprised me. And then near the end, we focus on how to create a culture that is psychologically safe for your team to give critical feedback to everyone.

2:07.4

It's really tough, but super important.

2:10.3

We cover that and so much more.

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Ladies and gentlemen, please enjoy my conversation with Bill Von Hippel.

2:20.7

So I'm curious about your friend Steve and people like him.

2:25.4

Why is it that someone like your buddy Steve who has a comfortable life filled with freedom,

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