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Coaching for Leaders

627: How to Influence Through Your Questions, with Kwame Christian

Coaching for Leaders

Dave Stachowiak

Education, Business, Management, Self-improvement, Careers

4.81.6K Ratings

🗓️ 24 April 2023

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

Kwame Christian: American Negotiation Institute Kwame Christian is a best-selling author, business lawyer, and CEO of the American Negotiation Institute. Following the viral success of his TED talk, Kwame released his best-seller Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life back in 2018. He’s also a regular Contributor for Forbes and the host of the number one negotiation podcast in the world, Negotiate Anything, which currently has over 5 million downloads worldwide. Under his leadership, the American Negotiation Institute has coached and trained several Fortune 500 companies on applying the fundamentals of negotiation to corporate success. He's also the author of the book How to Have Difficult Conversations About Race and the creator of Negotiable, an Online Community to Learn to Negotiate Anything. We often think about questions as a way to discover more — but have you also considered how your questions might influence? Kwame Christian and I discuss three key steps in order to persuade better through your intentional questions. Key Points Rapport questions help you make a connection with the other party and establish a baseline for how they communicate. A helpful place to begin on rapport is noticing something that you genuinely admire or are curious about in the other party. When gaining information, start broadly and then pull the thread when the other party leads you down a path. Beware that your role/positions can cause people to say more than they otherwise might. “What would it take?” is often a helpful way to illuminate a path forward. Even if you ultimately are more directive, laying the foundation through questions allows the other party to be heard and understand. Interview Notes Download my interview notes in PDF format (free membership required). Related Episodes These Coaching Questions Get Results, with Michael Bungay Stanier (episode 237) How to Ask Better Questions, with David Marquet (episode 454) The Way Out of Major Conflict, with Amanda Ripley (episode 529) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.

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We think about questions as a way to discover more, but have you also considered how your

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questions might influence?

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On this episode, Kwame Christian returns to show us three steps to influence better through

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intentional questions.

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This is Coaching for Leaders, Episode 627.

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Produced by Innovate Learning, Maximizing Human Potential.

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Greetings to you from Orange County, California.

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This is Coaching for Leaders, and I'm your host, Dave Stahofiak.

0:36.5

Leaders aren't born, they're made.

0:38.9

And this weekly show helps you discover leadership wisdom through insightful conversations.

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We have had a lot of conversations on the show over the years about questions, the importance

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of being coach-like and using questions in order to discover more, and also how to ask

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better questions, but we haven't looked as much at how we can influence through our

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questions.

1:01.2

Today, I'm so glad to welcome back a friend and expert who is going to help us to do

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just that.

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I'm so pleased to welcome back to the show Kwame Christian.

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He's a best-selling author, business lawyer, and CEO of the American Negotiation Institute.

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Following the viral success of his TED Talk, Kwame released his best-selling, Finding

1:20.0

Confidence in Conflict, How to Negotiate Anything, and Live Your Best Life Way Back

1:25.5

in 2018.

1:26.5

He's also a regular contributor for Forbes, and host of the number one negotiation podcast

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