Exactly, exactly. And this is actually going to be one of the best ways to get your sex drive back.

So if you feel like sex is just something that you do for your partner, of course it's going to feel like yet another obligation or expectation that you have on top of your shoulders, on top of everything else that you're going through.

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We are honored to have sex therapist Vanessa Marin back on the podcast today.

Vanessa's first episode was episode 21. She tackled so many good topics in that one.

It was the most listened to episode of 2020 and we knew we had to have our back on the podcast to answer more of our listeners questions about sex and intimacy.

So Vanessa if you could please introduce yourself once again for our listeners.

Hey guys, I'm so happy to be back.

So my name is Vanessa for everyone anyone who didn't catch that first episode. I'm a licensed sex therapist and I'm here to help you stop feeling ashamed or embarrassed of sex and start having a way more fun in the bedroom.

So I have a whole bunch of online courses that deal with different common challenges that people have in the bedroom like female orgasm mismatched sex drive low libido male performance issue.

And also yeah, work with a lot of different people over coaching as well, but my mission is just to help people have truly extraordinary sex lives.

Vanessa, I'm sure you aren't surprised, but we were flooded with questions for you intimacy and sex.

They're things that are so important in partnership, but often not talked about and the type A planner in me is going to start off by asking about scheduled sex and sexy time.

Call and I recently bought your workshop and love the information that you shared on this piece specifically.

We touched on it in your last interview, but can you dive into why it's a good idea and isn't as non sexy as it sounds to maybe put on your calendar.

Yes, so I am so glad we're starting with scheduled sex. It's such a fun topic for me to talk about.

I know that there's this stigma against scheduled sex. A lot of people think like it's just you know that's weird that you have to put it on your calendar.

But you know the reality of our lives these days is that we schedule the things that are important to us.

We don't leave things to just chance. We don't hope that they magically happen without us planning for them.

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