I'm Adelimo and this is The Slowdown.

One of my favorite mysteries of the universe is what turns us on and why.

When I talk with anyone about crushes and sensual pleasures and desires, what always

impresses me is that everyone is different.

We desire different things.

Different attributes turn us on and make us ready to rip our clothes off and run through

the streets.

It makes sense that that's the case.

Everyone is so unique.

Every crush is so unique.

It's always so individual, sometimes it's impossible to put words to.

Overbrunch we say things like, I don't know.

There's just something about her or him or them.

And suddenly we are blushing and trying to find language.

And that's when we know the crush is real.

There's no explaining it.

It just is.

When I first met my husband, we saw each other from across the bar at Cornelia Street

Cafe.

I remember liking the way he stood.

I don't think I've ever said that out loud.

But there was something sexy about the way he carried himself, the way he leaned against

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