6 Signs Your Relationship Won’t Survive - Take the 91% Accurate Divorce Test Now | Dr. Julie Gottman PT 1

Women of Impact

Impact Theory

Society & Culture, Relationships, Education

4.8 • 701 Ratings

🗓️ 13 August 2025

⏱️ 46 minutes

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Relationship myths, communication pitfalls, and the secret science behind lasting love—today’s guest unmasks it all. On this special two-part edition of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu welcomes Dr. Julie Gottman, renowned clinical psychologist, world-leading relationship expert, and co-founder of the Gottman Institute. With 40 years of transformative experience, Dr. Julie reveals what truly makes or breaks a relationship, why men and women cheat, and what most of us get wrong about emotional connection. In Part 1, Lisa and Dr. Julie take you on a myth-busting journey through the psychology of infidelity, the truth about “emotional” versus “physical” cheating, and the surprising evolutionary roots of why men sometimes shut down during arguments. Learn the real drivers behind relationship failure, why loneliness—not infidelity—is the ultimate relationship killer, and actionable scripts to resolve conflict without triggering defensiveness. If you’ve ever wondered what your partner is really thinking—or why your communication keeps hitting a wall—this episode is your essential guide. 01:13 Myths About Male & Female Cheating10:19 How to Approach Tough Conversations23:21 Why Men Stay, Why Women Leave31:46 Red Flags: Can You Fix a Relationship with a Narcissist? FOLLOW DR. JULIE GOTTMAN:Website: https://www.gottman.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/gottmaninstituteTwitter: https://twitter.com/gottmaninstFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/gottmaninstitute CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ Macy’s: Upgrade your glam at ⁠https://macys.com⁠ ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	What up my homies? I'm Lisa Billy and this is Women of Impact and I want to talk about something that maybe you've noticed or maybe you haven't.
0:08.0	But have you ever realised when things are getting really tense and maybe having a fight with your partner?
0:13.8	And he ends up just shutting down, not wanting to talk and there's still so much to discuss.
0:19.2	So if you're just wondering why he goes silent, why his eyes
0:22.6	go down, why he walks out the door, why it feels extremely personal that he's ignoring
0:27.5	you, but here's the thing, it's actually not, it's physiological. And today we're breaking
0:32.4	down what's actually happening in those moments. When men feel flooded, when they withdraw,
0:36.7	while women we end up pursuing
0:38.3	we end up going after the thing that actually is withdrawing from us. We're today's guest is
0:42.5	incredible Dr Julie Gottman clinical psychologist co-founder and president of the Gottman Institute
0:47.7	and one of the world's leading experts on what actually makes love work. Now if you don't know
0:53.8	Julie Gottman I'm going to be honest,
0:55.4	her and her husband have fundamentally impacted and changed mine and my husband's relationship
1:00.5	forever. We came across them maybe 15 years ago now. And when I say we have used their work and
1:06.1	their studies before she ever knew who I was, and it has legitimately helped my 25-year relationship with my
1:13.1	hubby. So you better believe when she came on, I had to ask her all the hard questions about why men
1:18.2	do the things they do. How we can maintain a beautiful relationship when we don't understand them,
1:22.9	when they seem like they're just doing things. And it just seems unbelievable to us, right?
1:27.0	I'm using the word unbelievable so I can be respectful to the men. Because the truth is sometimes we just, I know, maybe some people think that it's just an old book or an old idea, but I'm going to be honest, it is somewhat true that it feels like men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Yes, I know it's an old way of thinking, but I'm going to be honest, sometimes it really does feel like we come from different planets. So I just asked Dr. Julie
1:48.0	Gottman, what on earth is flooding? What does it mean when a guy shuts down, when he doesn't talk to you,
1:54.4	and as a woman, how we can navigate these difficult scenarios by understanding our significant
2:00.1	other. Now, I'm going to be honest, whether you're dating, this is going to be useful, whether
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