Why do some people get completely ignored while others seem to attract success without even trying?

It's not money. It's not being the smartest person in the room. It's respect and most people

have no idea how to earn it. Look, respect is one of the biggest reasons I've built what I have today.

And because of that, I want to share with you the six tricks that helped me go from nerdy and awkward to respect it and successful.

If you do these, I guarantee it'll make people treat you completely different and lead

you to real success.

Welcome to the Martel method.

I went from rehab at 17 to building a $100 million empire and being a Wall Street Journal

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In this podcast, I'll show you exactly how to build a life and business you don't grow to

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Starting with trick number one, speak now, not later. Most people don't say anything. Think about it for yourself. Has anybody brought something up that you did six months ago and you're like, what are you even talking about? If a new friend does something that's not cool, like didn't show up for a meeting or showed up late, say something. You don't have to be rude. You don't have to be angry, but not saying

anything is teaching them that it's okay. So what I would invite you to consider is get comfortable

with hard conversations. The way I do that is number one is I reframe the fear. I don't say I'm

confronting somebody or I'm being rude or I'm being direct or whatever. I just say I'm being

clear. Wouldn't that be a

great way to communicate in a clear way? Second part is I look at is building the muscle. See, if I wait until it's a massive problem, then I didn't build the muscle. If I dress it when it's a level two and on a level 10, then it becomes a lot easier for me, especially as bigger things happen in my life. And I know that the size of the problems that I can deal with is the size of my life. If I can only deal with little problems because I'm scared to like hurt people's feelings, then I won't be able to create a big life. The third is to avoid emotions. I don't get mad. I don't get rude. I don't get heated. I just tell them about the practical outcome. Like here's what we need. I'm not pissed off at them. I just asked them for confirmation.

Here's was the agreement. This is what you did in the future. Could you do this?

My friend Jefferson Fisher has this great framework about the frame. This is the conversation I want to

have. This is the intended outcome. Is that okay? And so it's like when you're

giving somebody feedback saying, I'd like to talk about your performance in the meeting yesterday,

my goal is to get us on the same page that you'll always show up early and be prepared.

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