I would like to talk to you about my stuckness and my romantic life.

My hope is that with your help and inside we will make sense of my conflicting emotions and by

extension understand if I want to move forward with my relationship.

It has been a challenging time with my girlfriend of seven years.

She filled with my reticence and marrying her.

However, things are slowly inexorably coming to a head and I'm afraid whatever way forward

I choose is going to turn out to be an abysmal decision, the worst decision I could make

for my life going forward.

I worry that whatever I do will be me heading straight off a cliff.

I recall you saying you were engaged to the wrong woman but realized and backed off, backed

out of it just in time.

And I wonder if I'm putting myself

in a similar situation. How would I know? Can you help me make sense of this relationship,

as I have seen you do with many other callers in? Thank you for your interest and all that you do,

warm regards. That's great. Yeah, listen, and I appreciate you calling me beforehand as opposed to I'm in a marriage with four children and, you know, it's a miserable and, right, that's a tough. So I appreciate the prevention rather than the, rather than the cure. So all right, do you want to tell me what's going on? What has got you between these two extremes of love and fear?

Yeah, yeah, I guess.

Well, as I wrote to you, I've been in a relationship for seven years now.

My current girlfriend, I moved abroad to work about two years ago and we've been going long distance since.

My girlfriend's tried to find a job locally where I'm currently located at, but she has not been successful in finding employment.

Part of it certainly to do with the fact that

she doesn't speak the local language or at least not to a high enough a level let's say and um yeah

this has been quite hard on her last year, especially.

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