Hello, everyone, and welcome to the Your Village podcast, Parenting Beyond Discipline,

the place to learn about all things parenting and get your questions answered.

I'm your host, Aaron Royer.

So it seems like a big topic for discussion these days is kids being unprepared to be

adults. 30% of college kids can't even boil an egg. And 52% can't change a tire. Okay, so I still don't

know how to change a tire unless it's on my bike.

I just called AAA, so maybe that one isn't quite as important. Although, I think if I really had to,

I could figure it out. I know where the spare is. I can read the directions. I could probably

make it happen. But this is a big topic that's going to be a two-part episode. So in this episode, I'll cover some great

background information on parenting styles and how they deter from or contribute to raising

responsible independent kids who will become adults. Next week, I'll really get into the meat

of expectations by age that will lead to your child,

flying the nest, with the life skills they will need to be independent in place.

Of course, kids will always need and want our help and advice.

They come up against something that will surprise them, and that's okay.

But we want to do the best we can so that they are prepared and resilient and can face life's

challenges with confidence. I remember one spring day a few years ago, my neighbor was helping me

set up my schedule on my sprinkler system when her 16-year-old walked all the way over from next

door and our houses are not real close. We're on a cul-de-sac, and she's at the long driveway at the end. He came over to tell her he was hungry. In the time

it took him to do that, he could have made himself his own sandwich. I wanted to ask him if his

hands were broken, but it wasn't my place. And she said, okay, I'll be right there to make you a sandwich.

Another mom that I saw as a therapy patient was complaining about her college boys who couldn't

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