3.8 • 899 Ratings
🗓️ 22 May 2024
⏱️ 49 minutes
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So many people have trouble orgasming and aren’t experiencing true pleasure during sex. Today on The Bad Girls Bible, sexual and relational communication profession Dr. Tara joins us to discuss the three main blockers of orgasms and why sexual chemistry is so important! In this conversation, you’ll hear all about Tara’s conservative background, what led her to the USA, why she became a professor of relational and sexual communication, body neutrality, sexual empowerment, Tara’s podcast, textbook, and the TV show she is in, and so much more! We delve into the three main reasons women struggle to orgasm before Tara shares her thoughts on the success of relationships with no sex or chemistry and how she helps her clients solve these issues. From attraction, to boundaries, to saying no, to the best positions for clitoral stimulation, to the use of vibrators, this episode has it all! We even discuss how same-sex schools affect sexuality in adulthood. Finally, our guest tells us all about what praise kink is. Thanks for tuning in!
Key Points From This Episode:
• An introduction to today’s guest, Dr. Tara.
• Tara’s background and how she became a professor of relational and sexual communication.
• Why Tara loves the concept of body neutrality instead of body positivity.
• How sexual empowerment can solve the issue of women faking orgasms and hiding it.
• Tara tells us about her textbook and podcast and how she ended up on Celebs Go Dating.
• The three main reasons women struggle to orgasm: physical, psychological, and relational.
• Why Tara believes you cannot have a successful, happy, long-term relationship without sex.
• How scent contributes to sexual chemistry and why it doesn’t ever lie to us.
• Tara’s advice for what to do when in a sexless relationship with no chemistry.
• The different categories of attraction and how it can be developed.
• Why breaching boundaries is so detrimental in a relationship.
• The importance of chemistry and why it cannot be built from nothing.
• Tara speaks about the differences between spontaneous and responsive desire.
• Why saying no is so liberating.
• The best, easiest positions for clitoral stimulation.
• Why men are generally so insecure about using vibrators and sex toys.
• What praise kink is and how a couple can explore it.
Quotes:
“The solution to the inability to orgasm or even to embrace pleasure overall is sexual empowerment.” [0:07:57]
“So many different physical issues contribute to the inability to orgasm.” [0:14:43]
“Every single person is entitled to what is right for them. If you're in a relationship that you don't have any sexual chemistry with your partner, it's your prerogative to decide if you want to do.” [0:23:25]
“A breach of boundaries is a killer of trust.” [0:29:09]
“For me, the most important thing that I learned in my previous relationship that you can never get unless it was there is chemistry.” [0:33:29]
“There is no good sex life – without communicating, without feeling confident, without feeling comfortable in your skin.” [0:42:04]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Luvbites by Dr. Tara — https://www.luvbites.co/
Dr. Tara Email Address — [email protected]
Dr. Tara on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/drtaraluvbites/
Dr. Tara on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co/
Dr. Tara on TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@luvbites.co
Dr. Tara on X — https://twitter.com/luvbitesco
Sexual Communication: Research in Action — https://books.google.co.za/books/about/Sexual_Communication.html?id=KRRVzwEACAAJ&redir_esc=y
Celebs Go Dating — https://www.imdb.com/title/tt5993484/
Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter
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0:00.0 | I explain to them what long-term sexual satisfaction looks like based on evidence, |
0:07.8 | based on research. |
0:09.6 | And almost all of the couples that own sex toys reported significantly higher |
0:16.2 | sexual satisfaction than couples that do not own sex toys. What do you say to that? |
0:21.1 | Do you want to be a part of the couples that are miserable and |
0:25.2 | refuse to use sex toys or do you want to come to the fun side? This is the Bad Girls Bible Podcast. I'm your host Sean Jameson and this is the place where |
0:40.5 | I interview experts and professionals and everyone in between to teach you how to dramatically improve your relationships and have more enjoyable sex more often. |
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1:07.0 | Today I'm talking to Dr Tara, she's a tenure professor of relational sexual communication and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton. |
1:19.1 | She's also the Sexpert on the TV show, Celebrity Go Dating, and the host of her own podcast, Love Bights by Dr Tara, |
1:27.3 | where she helps listeners to explore their sexuality and enhance their relationships. |
1:33.0 | Dr Tara, thanks so much for coming on the show. |
1:35.0 | Yay, hi Sean, are you having an orgasmic day? |
1:39.0 | I am. |
1:40.0 | We talked a little bit beforehand. |
1:41.0 | You said it's a bit gloomy where you are, but it's a bit gloomy where you are but it's |
1:43.5 | a bit gloomy where I am too but otherwise pretty good day. |
1:47.0 | I feel like gloomy is like good sex weather though right? You know |
1:51.0 | like snuggled under the doviz. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 100%. |
1:57.0 | Awesome, I'm so excited to be here. |
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