511 | Friendships with ADHD - with Trina Haynes

ADHD reWired

Eric Tivers, LCSW, ADHD-CCSP

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4.7 • 919 Ratings

🗓️ 28 November 2023

⏱️ 56 minutes

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This week, Trina Haynes from MyLadyADHD joins the show! Trina is the founder of My Lady ADHD, which empowers and supports individuals facing ADHD challenges! She created a safe space and vibrant community for women, drawing from her own personal ADHD journey. Trina is also the host of the My Lady ADHD Podcast, and is the cofounder of Get Lost Retreats, featuring regular ADHD women’s retreats around the globe! Learn more about Trina at MyLadyADHD.com! Check out Get Lost Retreats at getlostretreats.com Questions/Topics: [00:00:42] Introducing Trina [00:01:55] Eric and Trina talk about the struggle of making friends and maintaining friendships [00:06:45] Executive functions, planning & scheduling, maintenance, and avoidance [00:07:47] Perceived rejections, shame, and assuming the best of intentions [00:10:18] Connecting with ADHDers vs. connecting with neurotypicals [00:11:25] An ADHD moment… then, a discussion on fizzled-out friendships [00:14:18] The difficulty of making friends after lockdown and isolation [00:15:15] Introversion, extroversion, and recovery time [00:16:44] FOMO (fear of missing out) and the challenge of transitions to stop when being with friends [00:23:44] Another ADHD moment… [00:24:30] Trina shares lessons learned from friendships that didn’t last, why friendships might not always last, and the importance of communicating clear intentions [00:26:48] Friendships, feedback, investing, and balance [00:31:13] Eric and Trina take an intentional moment to reach out to a friend [00:32:26] Managing emotions when worrying if friends will be upset with you, the importance of repair, and being a people-pleaser [00:36:36] Personal dumpster fires, healing, and exploring [00:39:37] The importance of going back to basics and max-capacities [00:47:16] Phone tools and apps to help with communication [00:50:23] Frontloading conversations with honesty and vulnerability [00:51:44] How to get in touch with Trina and closing thoughts Resources & Honorable Mentions: Hear Eric on Trina’s podcast on the My Lady ADHD Podcast Hear Trina and other panelists on ADHD reWired’s Live Q&A from August 8th - Episode 500 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

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0:00.0	It doesn't even have to be actual rejection. It's the perceived rejection that is so powerful, right? Like I'm assuming that you're mad at me, but that might not actually be the case. Like you probably forgot that I did that, you're good, you know.
0:16.4	But I'm in my head, I've perceived this person's
0:19.7	going to be irritated with me.
0:21.0	They're going to get like, I don't don't want I'm avoiding confrontation at all
0:24.4	costs.
0:30.0	Welcome back to another episode of ADHD Rewired.
0:34.4	Today's guest is Trina Haynes from My Lady ADHD.
0:40.9	Hey Trina.
0:41.9	Hi.
0:43.0	We've been like talking for like, I don't know, half an hour, like, oh yeah, we're supposed to do a podcast.
0:47.0	Let me just give you a little intro here.
0:50.0	All right, so Trina is the founder of My Lady ADHD, which empowers and supports individuals facing
0:56.2	ADHD challenges.
0:57.8	She created a safe space and vibrant community for women, drawing from her own personal ADHD journey. As I mentioned
1:05.2	she's the host of the My Lady ADHD podcast and is a co-founder of Get Lost
1:11.0	Retreats featuring regular ADHD women's retreats around the globe.
1:17.4	Trina, welcome to the podcast.
1:19.4	That was such a nice intro. Thank you for that. I appreciate that.
1:22.8	Yeah, whoever wrote it did a great job.
1:24.8	Yeah, I don't know.
1:25.8	So, well, let me technically, this is not your first time on,
1:30.8	because you did join us for a Q&A couple months.
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