What up my homies, I'm Lisa Biliou and this is Women of Impat.

Now, tell me if this actually sounds familiar.

A guy says something actually, he kind of falls off.

But you can't quite tell if he's flirting.

If he's being mean. If he's just trying to get one nice stand. Or if he's just straight up chipping away at your confidence. In order for you to feel so insecure that you end up sleepin' with him. And before you know it, you're spiraling wonder is he gradually into me?

Or is he running some tactic that he learned on the internet from the manus fear?

That's exactly why I brought on today's guest Mark Manson.

Now. Before you know it, you're spiraling wonder is he gradually into me? Was he running some tactic that he learned on the internet from the Manusphere? That's exactly why I brought on today's guest Mark Manson. Now, he is the man that sold over 20 million copies with a smash hit book the subtle art of not giving enough. And he's taught millions of men about how to have authentic, honest, dating. Because he was one of those people that was actually stuck in the Manusphere and the toxic advice and the strategies he used? Well, he could teach us first-hand what the difference is. So I'm playing a game with him. I'm throwing a rule pick up artist tactics at Mark. Yes, the actual lines that guys use and he's breaking down whether the move shows will interest or it's just emotional bait with a nice little bow on it. And we kick it off guys with one of the worst defenders and we got all of it why it works, what it actually does to your confidence and how to immediately tell the difference between the honesty and the manipulation tactic. Here's what we're about to get into. How to recognise the toxic behaviour so you don't fall into the insecurity trap again. The simple cues that tell you when a man is being honest so so you stop guessing, stop trusting your instincts, and the mindset shift that actually helps you attract healthy men instead of getting hooked by manipulators. Are you ready, Mahalmi? All right, let's go. You said that the problem with toxic dating advice for men is it actually works on women. And because you're the guy who sold over 20 million copies of the subtle art and not given enough, you've told millions of men on healthy, honest dating, you're literally the perfect person to help us decode the difference between horrendous manipulation and genuine beautiful interest. So today we're going to play a game called Is He Into You or Is He Just Playing You? I'm going to give you some real pickup artistry advice and I want you to help teach us women how to spot the difference.

You ready?

All right, let's go.

Okay.

So I've got number one with the pickup artistry advice,

which is probably one of the worst, which is Neckher. Explain that to me. Why does it work? So the Neck is a classic tactic from the pickup artist world. The idea, it's basically a backhanded compliment.

So it's like diminishing the woman,

but in kind of an ambiguous way,

like it's not just outright insulting you,

it's like saying something like,

like, oh, your shoes are really interesting. Did you get them at K-Mart? It seems innocent on the surface, but like really he's just trying to make you feel bad and insecure about yourself. And the psychology behind it is that if you can poke at your insecurities, the natural human reaction anytime somebody makes us feel insecure is that we want to prove ourselves to them. We want to be validated by them. And so it's to create a dynamic with the woman where you're seeking his approval. And once he has you in that dynamic, it's much easier to hook up with you. All right, thank you for that breakdown. So now I have a question.

How do you know if he's being honest

and just being truthful?

Like actually, I don't like that, Scott.

Versus someone who's actually deliberately trying

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