5 Things to Say Instead of “It Will Be Okay” (Hint: Bring Cookies, Not Advice)
Feeling Things with Amy & Kat
Nashville Podcast Network
4.9 • 5.3K Ratings
🗓️ 10 February 2026
⏱️ 64 minutes
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Summary
When life feels loud and uncertain, “it will be okay” doesn’t always help. Amy and Kat talk about how to show up without fixing, why validation matters, and what real support looks like. They also share what they’re feeling of the day, what they're reading and watching, including immersion reading and a perimenopause documentary that sparked a conversation about hormones, relationships, and why everything can feel turned way up. Amy reflects on her divorce, what perimenopause may (or may not) have influenced, and why understanding your body matters. Plus, a heartfelt voicemail from a listener in Alberta reminds them why the randomness, laughter, and everyday conversations matter...especially in hard seasons.
5 Things to Say Instead of “It Will Be Okay”:
1. “Gosh, this sounds hard.”
Lead with validation instead of solutions. Naming how difficult something feels helps people feel seen rather than fixed.
2. “What do you need from me right now?”
Before giving advice, check in. Sometimes people want help, sometimes they just want to be heard...and they may not even know yet.
3. “Sounds like you’re having a very human reaction.”
Normalize their response. Fear, anger, sadness, and overwhelm are often appropriate reactions...not signs something is wrong with them.
4. “I don’t know the right thing to say, but I’m here.”
Be honest and present. You don’t need the perfect words to offer support...your presence matters more than certainty.
5. “I’m bringing you over cookies.”
When asking what someone needs feels like too much, take the guesswork out and do something tangible. Care doesn’t have to be complicated.
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| 0:00.0 | This is an IHeart podcast. |
| 0:02.5 | Guaranteed Human. |
| 0:05.5 | One, two, please. |
| 0:09.0 | If you ever have feelings that you just want some, |
| 0:12.8 | Amy and Kat got you covered like an umbrella. |
| 0:16.2 | Ladies and fellas, |
| 0:17.7 | we just follow in the spirit where it tells us. |
| 0:20.5 | From the real stuff to the chill stuff and the in between. |
| 0:25.6 | Sometimes the best thing you can do is just out and feel things. |
| 0:31.3 | This is Feeling Things with Amy and Kat. |
| 0:33.8 | Happy Thursday. |
| 0:34.6 | Welcome to Feeling Things. |
| 0:35.6 | I'm Amy. |
| 0:36.1 | And I'm Kat. |
| 0:36.9 | And today we're going to get into |
| 0:38.2 | things you can tell yourself so that you're going to think it's okay when it's really not okay. |
| 0:43.0 | That's not what we're talking about. It sinks to say when you're not sure if it's going to be okay. |
| 0:49.8 | That's it. Yeah. That's close now. Yeah. Cat being the licensed therapist, yeah. She's going to guide us through five things to say instead of it will be okay. Yeah. That's more like it. But before we get into that, I'm going to talk about, look, what we're reading, what we're watching, what we're listening to, all the things. Can I share my field in the day first? Well, yeah, duh. That's normally how we start things. |
| 1:11.4 | Okay. |
| 1:11.8 | This was hard for me because I wanted to say I was excited, but I'm not feeling excited. |
| 1:19.3 | I just was feeling fine, but fine is not a feeling. |
| 1:22.2 | So it took me a while to get here. |
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