Next time on Dear Alice, don't compare yourself to anyone.

Don't compare yourself to anyone.

That's a good thing to tell a 21, a 20-year-old because I do feel like no matter what, you're

comparing yourself to everybody because you're trying to figure out what you're going to

be and how does this world work and what's the place in it?

Yeah, how are you in relation to other people?

And so, and I read a study, or I was sorry, I didn't really study, I was listening to experts

talk on a different podcast.

And they were talking about how no matter what, the human mind is always making comparisons.

And for whatever reason, all of our brains naturally go to what's worse about each situation.

We find the worst part in compare and contrast, we're always able to pick out the bad parts.

And so, it's good to know that about our mind.

It doesn't mean that we're pessimistic.

It's the natural thing that our brain does and it's selects it.

It selects all those things to sort of bring those to the forefront.

And so, I just think it's important to know that, that it's going to be doing that.

But you can't continue to compare obviously your worst to people's best, right?

Because that's the only face that they want to show.

But I think, I don't know, finding your own magic, yeah, and celebrating that, it's going

to make you so much more happy than seeing why you're not just like the person that you

admire.

You know what I mean?

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