What is up guys it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realest say goodbye to the lies to fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys.

Today I have a special real talk I want to give you. It's probably take 10 minutes or so but before I get into it for those of you that are new. This is a personal development podcast we do have a number of different segments inside the podcast. It's kind of shows within the show today you're going to hear real talk just five to 20 minutes and me giving you some real talk I think is relevant. Other times you tune in we have Q and A F that is a question and answer show you can submit your questions a couple of

different ways one you can email them to ask Andy at Andy for sell a calm or we are on YouTube if you drop the comment in the Q and A F episode and as a question we will pick some from there as well. Other times you tune in we have CTI that stands for cruise the internet that's where we put up topics on the screen. We talk about what's going on in the world. We have a little fun we make some jokes we speculate on what's going on we talk about how we can all be solution to make the world a better place. And then other times we have full length full length is what you see.

We have a lot of young most podcasts is where a bunch of people sit in the room have a conversation. And then we have real talk which what you're going to hear today.

It's been a while since I've done some real talk but I'm excited about this one I think a lot of you guys are going to get some benefit out of it.

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Now I'm going to get into this real quick okay tell a little story so a couple nights ago I got a DM from a young man who was very distraught and very upset.

I don't normally check my DMs normally my team it's kind of running my page and I get in there sometimes to talk with my friends and stuff like that and sometimes I get these in these these little notes that I see and and this was one I couldn't ignore.

And this this young man was struggling because he was going through a breakup and he was talking to me about how hard it was and he wanted to ask me how to get through these difficult situations.

And it really touched me because I I haven't had to deal with those things in a long time but I could totally relate to how hard they can be to get through and I thought that this will be a good real talk topic for us to talk about here about how to move through these difficult situations that happen to us in terms of going through a breakup situation now let me tell you something guys I don't care who you are I don't care who you are I don't care who you are.

I don't care how cool you are I don't care how rich you are I don't care what kind of cool stuff you got going for you you're going to have to deal with this situation there's going to be times in your life that we are rejected we are told by another human being that they no longer want us in their life and that's a reality of going through life it's going to happen over and over and over again you're going to have people break up with you you're going to have people fire you you're going to have friends that you're going to have friends that you're going to have a lot of people

who are just the stuff that no longer want to be friends with you you're going to have people unfollow you that you thought were your friends all these situations create this this feeling on the inside as if we're not good enough or you know there's something wrong with us and let me tell you something guys I'm 43 I've been through a number of these situations I've been through a lot of break ups I've been broken up with a lot I've had a lot of people you know disagree with me on

things you know I'm outspoken human being there's going to be people that disagree with me I have people you know decide because I say one or two things that they don't agree with that we can't be friends that's happening me over and over and over again in life and I want to address this situation because that feeling of rejection and that feeling of loneliness and that feeling of unworthiness is a very very very hard feeling to deal with and so I was having this conversation with this young man

and he was telling me how he turned to alcohol and he said it doesn't matter how much alcohol I have it's still there first piece of advice when you're going through a situation that is personally disturbing to you whether it be a breakup whether it be a loss loss of a loved one loss of a job loss of you know something that mattered to you loss of a pet maybe could be a lot of different things

turning to alcohol will only make those things worse it will only make those things worth alcohol is a is a depressant

it makes you feel okay in the time but the two to three days after the alcohol you're going to be in a bad place and so

you have to understand that the first step of going through these traumatic situations is to avoid numbing the pain with alcohol it only makes it worse and then what happens right you end up getting

too much alcohol you start texting people you start saying things you make a fool of yourself then you wake up the next day and you're like fuck what I do that and then it makes the situation worse it compounds it right it makes us feel like

you know we just made a fool of ourselves in front you know and like bro we live in this age of social media now where people will take those moments of

of pain and hardship and vulnerability and struggle and post them for the world to see which only makes it worse and worse and worse

so my step number one on this is avoid alcohol okay now step number two is hard this is hard to do but it's very important

when we go through a time of chaos and we go through a time of rejection we go through a time of feeling like nobody cares about us and everybody hates us the world is against us you have to remind yourself that this is just you telling yourself things that are absolutely untrue

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