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On your host, Trish Blackwell, internationally recognized Confidence Coach, best-selling author, and founder of the College of Confidence, the most encouraging place on the Internet.

I teach go-getters in life how to take their thoughts captive, how to step out of the shadows of self-doubt, and how to courageously step into their purpose with confidence.

It's time to pump our confidence muscles and train our thoughts y'all. Let's get started.

Hey guys, it's Trish Blackwell, and you're listening to the Confidence Podcast. This is episode 470, and we're talking about rejection.

This is a listener-requested topic, and I can't wait to die then, because the pain from past rejection or fear of future rejection keeps so many of us from our fullest potential in life, both personally and professionally, but it doesn't have to.

When you learn how to reframe rejection, and look, you deserve better than to expect to get hurt, to expect things to not work out, or to expect disappointment.

We want to come to a place where we recognize all of those things are part of the human experience. They are not a reflection that is so unique to you, that you feel like the world is conspiring against you, because that's what happens.

We hold on to a hurt, and we think that that hurt is going to keep happening, and we look around, and we glamour as other people's lives, and expect that they don't struggle with the same emotional challenges that we do.

I want to invite you into coaching with me today, in a session that's going to inspire you with actual tools to do some rejection refraining, so that you can start being more brave with your life.

Because that's the deal. If you are afraid of rejection, or you're holding on to old offenses, old hurts, and you're replaying the story over and over, what it does is it exhausts your emotional energy.

It causes you to show up in a way that is so less powerful and inauthentic, and you don't have the connection with others that you deserve, and that you're able to have.

But also the full experience of joy and life, because rejection and fear of the pain of hurt of it happening again, and always being on guard, you're on guard.

Think about that, like that, that close off body language, and it's not just towards others, it's towards life.

And I always like looking at what does that look like, and what does it take away from my life, and in the past, when I've been in this place, when I couldn't believe that I deserved better,

than just holding on to these rejections, and my fear of letting anyone close, because they're just going to hurt me and reject me.

I look at my life was good. Many paper was good. But it was a 50% life.

Like, I would say it was a 50% capacity for happiness. I was a 50% capacity for impact. I was kind of making a difference in this world, but I was still so self-focused.

Because if you want to show in this world, I just did some coaching on this in the college competence, which is my group mentorship program, and I was telling the college competence members that if our goal and our objective is to show up in this world with just such overflowing love,

in order to love others, it's the whole concept of you have to put your own mask on first, and you have to love yourself first.

And I used to struggle with that, because I felt selfish. But the thing is, is I was held back from really loving people when I was wrapped up in my own stuff, when I was wrapped up in my own pain, when I was wrapped up in my own insecurity, when I was wrapped up in my own self-doubt, when I was wrapped up in my own comparison,

and if I was bloated or how did my body look, I became so without even realizing it. Yeah, on the surface, maybe we're making efforts to love people, but when you think about it, when your mind is half consumed with criticism and protection and judgements of yourself, that is that energy, that emotional energy, is energy that we can spend just being loved in this world.

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