461: The Power of Showing Up, with Tina Payne Bryson

Coaching for Leaders

Dave Stachowiak

Education, Business, Management, Self-improvement, Careers

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🗓️ 30 March 2020

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Tina Payne Bryson: The Power of Showing Up Tina Payne Bryson is a psychotherapist and the Founder/Executive Director of The Center for Connection, a multidisciplinary clinical practice, and of The Play Strong Institute, a center devoted to the study, research, and practice of play therapy through a neurodevelopment lens. Tina is the author with Dan Siegel of two New York Times bestsellers, The Whole-Brain Child* and No Drama Discipline*, each of which has been translated into over forty languages. She’s recently released with Dan their newest book, The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired*. In this conversation, Tina and I explore what it means to show up for kids and why it’s more than just being physically present. We discuss the distinction between being seen vs. being shamed. Plus, practical actions that parents, family members, and other caregivers can take to empower children. Key Points Our research and experience suggest that raising happy, healthy, flourishing kids requires parents to do just one key thing. It’s not about reading all the parenting best sellers or signing your kids up for all the right activities. You don’t even have to know exactly what you’re doing. Just show up. Intensive parenting is problematic not only because of the pressure it puts on parents, but because some research suggests that all this exhausting parental striving may not be the best way to raise children. Showing up is more than just being physically present. Many people don’t have the advantage of relationships. They grew up in families where almost all of the attention was focused on external and surface-level experiences. Let your curiosity lead you to take a deeper dive and make space and time to look and learn. A child’s brain is changing and changeable. Resources Mentioned The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired* by Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson Tina Payne Bryson The New Adolescence: Raising Happy and Successful Teens in an Age of Anxiety and Distraction* by Christine Carter Wildhood: The Astounding Connections between Human and Animal Adolescents* by Barbara Natterson-Horowitz and Kathryn Bowers Related Episodes How to Reduce Drama With Kids, with Tina Payne Bryson (episode 310) Align Your Calendar to What Matters, with Nir Eyal (episode 431) Family Productivity, with Bonni Stachowiak (episode 453) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.

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0:00.0	Many in our listening community have the privilege to be of influence in the lives of children.
0:05.0	And we assume correctly that spending time with them is important.
0:10.0	What sometimes gets missed is how that time is spent.
0:13.9	On this episode, Tina Payne Bryson returns to teach us the power of showing up.
0:19.2	This is Coaching for Leaders, episode 461.
0:23.0	Produced by Innovate Learning, Maximizing Human Potential.
0:27.0	Greetings to you from Orange County, California. This is coaching for leaders and I'm
0:37.3	your host Dave Stahoviac. Leaders aren't born, they're made, and this weekly show helps you discover leadership wisdom through insightful conversations.
0:48.0	Leaders know that they need to show up, they need to show up in all kinds of capacities, certainly in the
0:55.0	workplace and also for most of us at home and specifically with kids and those of you who have been listening to the show for a while know that as much as I love having conversations about leadership and business.
1:11.2	Once in a while I like to take the perspective of looking at some of the key parts of our personal lives our families our finances and our children and I know many of you in our community do have children and those of you who don't many of you also have children in your lives.
1:26.0	And today a conversation that will be so important about how to show up and the great thing is it's actually not just about how to show up with children.
1:34.0	There's so many wonderful perspectives here that will actually help us show up more effectively as leaders.
1:40.0	I am thrilled to welcome back to the show Tina Payne Bryson.
1:44.0	She is a psychotherapist and the founder and executive director of the Center for Connection,
1:49.0	which is a multidisciplinary clinical practice,
1:52.0	and also of the Play Strong Institute, a center devoted to the study, research, and practice of play therapy through a neurodevelopment lens.
2:01.0	Tina is the author with Dance Eagle of two New York Times bestsellers, the
2:04.9	whole brain child and no drama discipline, each of which has been translated into
2:09.6	over 40 languages.
2:11.1	Tina keynotes conferences and conducts workshops for kids, parents, educators, clinicians, and
2:16.8	industry leaders all over the world and makes frequent media appearances for venues like Time,
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