#461 - Do Therapists Give Advice? Why They Hold Back and How to Actually Get Direction
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
4.6 • 849 Ratings
🗓️ 7 July 2025
⏱️ 47 minutes
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Summary
Have you ever been in the middle of a therapy session and found yourself silently (or loudly 😂) begging for advice from your therapist? You lay it all out — the overthinking, the relationship questions, the confusion… and they smile gently and say, “Hmm... what do you think you should do?” 😵💫
This is an all too common occurrence that can result in confusing, frustrating, and disappointing experiences with therapy. So on this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, we’re going to talk about why your therapist won’t give you advice, what therapists can help you with, and what kind of support will give you the guidance you’re looking for.
Traditional therapy isn’t designed to tell you what to do or how to do it, and if you’re someone who wants clarity, structure, and movement forward… it might be time for a different kind of support. If you’re in therapy and wondering why you still feel stuck, this is an episode you won’t want to miss.
Timestamps
00:00 – Why therapists don’t give advice (and why that’s intentional)
05:21 – Understanding different types of therapy
15:19 – What coaches do differently (and why it works)
21:52 – How to know what kind of support you need
24:05 – When therapy helps… and when it doesn’t
25:49 – Coaching vs. therapy: what’s right for your goals?
29:44 – Watch out: unqualified “coaches” are everywhere
33:34 – The honest truth about what will actually help you
34:21 – Finding clarity, confidence, and direction
36:38 – Questions to ask before hiring a therapist or coach
45:02 – Feeling stuck in therapy? Say this to your therapist
48:05 – It’s not you, you just need the right support
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And hey, if this conversation resonated with you? Come hang out with me on Instagram or YouTube. I share interviews with experts, evidence-based tools that actually work, and lots of free resources to help you create love, happiness and success in your life.
Xoxo
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
P.S. Know someone who’s been stuck in therapy wondering where the heck to go from here? Share this episode with them and support them on their journey.
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | ideally you get the best of both worlds because you deserve help that actually helps you |
| 0:14.4 | create the outcomes that you want create real change not just talk about it. |
| 0:28.3 | This is Dr. Lisa Marie-Bobby, and you're listening to the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast. And if you are tuning in today, I know why you're here. You are here because you're |
| 0:36.9 | someone who wants to grow. You want to feel |
| 0:39.7 | better. You want clarity. You want changes in your life. Maybe improved relationships. Maybe |
| 0:45.9 | figuring out your career path. Maybe it's to feel more confident. But you're you're ready for |
| 0:51.8 | something, right? But here's the thing that most people do not realize and maybe even why you're tuning |
| 1:00.1 | into this today. |
| 1:01.1 | If you've been in therapy, traditional insight-oriented talk therapy, maybe you have gone |
| 1:10.1 | into therapy hoping that it would help you achieve those goals |
| 1:16.0 | that we just talked about. And as part of that, you're hoping that your therapist will be an |
| 1:22.3 | active partner in helping you craft your path forward, advising you, helping you understand, like, |
| 1:31.3 | what to do, what not to do, how to achieve the results that you want. |
| 1:35.3 | And if this has been your desire for therapy, you are not alone. |
| 1:39.9 | But there is often a very real disconnect, which is that therapists don't do that. |
| 1:48.3 | They don't give you specific guidance. |
| 1:52.0 | They don't help you design an action plan. |
| 1:55.6 | That is not what therapy is for. |
| 1:57.8 | And I think many times that's why I have so many people tuning into the Love, Appiness, and Success podcast, because they're in therapy, which is for. And I think many times, that's why I have so many people tuning into the |
| 2:01.3 | Love Happiness and Success Podcasts because they're in therapy, which is great, very gratifying, |
| 2:05.8 | get to talk about you, connect the dots, it's all good. But there's still this gap around, |
| 2:11.1 | well, what do I do with that? There's this hunger for direction, for guidance, and for useful information that will help |
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