#458 The ‘I’m Not Enough’ Trap: Transform Your Fear into Alignment and Purpose ft. Mary Marantz
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
4.6 • 849 Ratings
🗓️ 16 June 2025
⏱️ 58 minutes
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Summary
Ever feel like no matter how hard you try, you’re still not good enough? Like you're outrunning a wolf that lives inside you, always whispering, “You’ve got more to prove”. But what if fear isn’t your enemy? What if it's actually pointing you toward your purpose?
In this deeply transformative conversation with bestselling author Mary Marantz, we explore how the experiences that once made us feel underestimated—and the relentless drive to overachieve—can keep us stuck in cycles of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and fear-fueled productivity.
Mary and I unpack the myths of not-enoughness, talk about the parts of ourselves that try to protect us from failure, and offer a new path forward: one where your gifts and your story become your superpowers. Get ready to look at fear differently, reclaim your confidence, and learn to move forward—not from a place of proving, but from a place of purpose.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Why You're Still Not Enough (Even After All the Achievements)
02:01 – Mary’s Story: From Single-Wide Trailer to Yale Law
03:55 – Why Fear Isn’t the Villain You Think It Is
06:14 – The Power of Owning Your Hard Story
14:15 – When Fear Shows Up, You're Closer Than You Think
18:06 – Creativity, Fear, and the Impostor Trap
24:27 – What To Do With Fear When It Gets Loud
29:23 – Catching Fear in the Act
30:35 – A Totally Different Kind of Coaching
36:01 – Your Inner Critic Isn’t Evil—It's Trying to Protect You
39:24 – Procrastination, Perfectionism, and Productivity Traps
45:55 – Underestimated: When They Miss Your Magic (and You Do, Too)
55:58 – Make Art Anyway: Excellence Without Validation
57:02 – Finding Clarity and Confidence
If you feel like you’re hustling for your worth—trying to prove something to someone, maybe even to yourself—it might be time for a new approach. I created Clarity and Confidence Coaching for exactly this purpose—to support brilliant, driven people just like you in shedding their limiting beliefs, getting clear on their direction, and moving forward into their dream life with confidence.
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You’ll be guided with depth and care and use life changing coaching strategies to rewrite your inner script and start taking action — from your strengths, not your fear.
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P.S. Know someone who feels like they’re not enough, even though they’re secretly incredible? Share this with them. You might be the reason they finally see what’s been true all along. 💛
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| 0:00.0 | It is this pervasive sense that no matter what you do, you will never be enough. |
| 0:18.7 | And that is, that's the filter I think we begin from. I have really spent, |
| 0:24.4 | and I think a lot of what I call hard story people, has been the majority of our lives, |
| 0:29.0 | feeling like we had to arrive at a certain place or we had to accomplish something or accumulate |
| 0:32.9 | something or arrive at some sort of place of safety that would finally say, now I am enough. |
| 0:51.8 | What if your fears, the ones you think are holding you back, were actually hiding your greatest |
| 1:00.2 | power? |
| 1:02.0 | If that is something of interest to you, I'm so glad you're here with us because today |
| 1:06.0 | we're talking to best-selling author, Mary Morrance. |
| 1:10.5 | I grew up in a single-eye trailer in rural West Virginia and then ended up at Yale for law school. |
| 1:15.6 | Who is all about flipping fear on its head? |
| 1:19.6 | So whether you've been struggling with perfectionism, people-pleasing, procrastination, |
| 1:25.6 | or the always-fun self-doubt, Mary is going to be talking about |
| 1:30.2 | how these patterns aren't necessarily flaws. They're not things we need to push away. They can |
| 1:36.4 | actually be signals. And that when you learn how to decode them, you can stop playing small |
| 1:43.5 | and start leading big. So, we have so much planned for you |
| 1:48.6 | today on this episode. Stay till the end because you're going to walk away with a new perspective |
| 1:54.6 | on fear as well as some practical strategies to help you shift your mindsets and some steps to take starting |
| 2:03.9 | today that might even help you move forward. So no matter how stuck you're feeling right now, |
| 2:09.7 | this is going to help you, especially if you've ever wondered why maybe you feel called |
| 2:15.7 | more to do more, but sometimes can't seem to get traction. |
| 2:21.1 | This episode is a roadmap. |
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