450 - Polywise: A Conversation with Jessica Fern and Dave Cooley

Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

Multiamory, LLC

Sexuality, Self-improvement, Relationships, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Education

4.9 • 935 Ratings

🗓️ 28 November 2023

⏱️ 59 minutes

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Today we're excited to share a conversation with Jessica Fern and David Cooley about their new book, Polywise. Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Coach, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Jessica is the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonogamy, The Polysecure Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships, and Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships. Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas.David Cooley is a professional Restorative Justice facilitator, diversity and privilege awareness trainer, and bilingual cultural broker. He is the creator of the Restorative Relationship Conversations model, a process that transforms interpersonal conflict into deeper connection, intimacy and repair. He specializes in working with non-monogamous and LGBTQ partnerships, incorporating a variety of modalities including trauma-informed care, attachment theory, somatic practices, narrative theory, and mindfulness-based techniques. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.VisitShamelesscare.com today and use coupon code MULTI for a sizzling $30 discount at checkout. Don't settle for anything less than Shameless Care. Let them be your partner in embracing a sex-positive lifestyle. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	It struck me as we were going through the circle and I'm listening to these kids and parents just be so sincere and talk about the ways that they were hurt and why they did what they did and how they wanted things to be different
0:14.4	I realize that whoa no one is being leveraged to be here everyone is choosing to be here
0:20.4	because they recognize the importance of these connections.
0:23.2	Everyone is a deeply committed stakeholder to this situation.
0:27.5	I was so moved by it.
0:29.3	I want to do work like this where everyone wants to be in this space, where everyone's choosing to be here.
0:34.4	So it took a couple years to kind of go from that breakthrough revelation to creating this model,
0:39.5	but I realized that there was sort of a niche out there that no one was filling, no one was applying restorative principles to intimate
0:45.9	relationships as far as I had seen I thought this is a great model for creating
0:50.0	safe containers for conflict and Lord knows people need it in these circumstances.
0:55.0	Welcome to the multi-amory podcast. I'm Jace. I'm Emily and I'm Denaker. We believe in looking to the future of relationships not
1:06.2	maintaining the status quo of the past. Whether you're monogamous, polyamorous, swinging, casually dating, or if you just do relationships differently, we see you and we're here for you. I know I did
1:26.0	forcing me to for myself to fit
1:38.0	on this episode of the Multie-Amory Podcast, we are joined by Jessica Fern and Dave Cooley to talk about their new book, Polywise. To check out our first episode that featured Jessica
1:44.8	listen way back to episode 291 where we talked about her first book Polysecure.
1:51.1	So quick introductions Jessica Fern is a psychotherapist, coach, and certified clinical
1:56.7	trauma professional. Jessica is the author of Polysecure, attachment trauma and non-monogamy, which I know many of our listeners have already read,
2:04.6	and also the author of the Polysecure Workbook, Healing your attachment and creating security
2:11.2	and loving relationships, and now Polywise a deeper dive into navigating open relationships.
2:17.4	Jessica also works with individuals, couples, and people in multi-partner relationships
2:22.4	who no longer want to be limited by their reactive
2:24.8	patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas.
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