449: Loss is Inevitable. Here’s How to Handle It. | Kathryn Schulz

10% Happier with Dan Harris

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Dan Harris, Health & Fitness, Mindfulness, Dharma, Mental Health, Meditation

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🗓️ 16 May 2022

⏱️ 62 minutes

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Summary

There is an unstoppable flow of gain and loss within our lives.

Processing this flow helps us to develop equanimity. In this conversation, Pulitzer Prize-winner and New Yorker staff writer Kathryn Schulz discusses her new book Lost and Found: A Memoir, in which she explores experiencing both a huge loss anda huge gain, and how to live in a world where both happiness and pain commingle.

In this episode we talk about:

How humans experience grief
A gift you can give to the grieving
Why she loves the clichés that remind us to enjoy the moment
Her broad understanding of the term “loss”
Why the key word in ‘lost and found’ is “and”
What she’s learned about compromising in relationships

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0:00.0	This is the 10% happier podcast.
0:06.3	I'm Dan Harris.
0:08.0	Again, I've always been really intrigued by the Buddhist notion of the eight worldly
0:15.9	wins.
0:16.9	They include praise and blame, success and failure, joy and sorrow and most relevant for this
0:23.8	conversation, gain and loss.
0:26.9	The idea is that if we learn to relate to these various two-sided coins as being like
0:31.6	the wind or part of nature, we can develop more equanimity vis-a-vis life's inevitable
0:37.6	ups and downs, vexations and vicissitudes, the full catastrophe.
0:42.2	Today, we're going to talk specifically about the unstoppable flow of gain and loss, the
0:48.1	upside and downside of impermanence and how to deal with this process more effectively.
0:53.6	My guest is not actually a Dharma teacher, but instead a Pulitzer Prize-winning writer
0:58.3	who I've actually been a fan of for a very long time.
1:01.8	She really is, in my opinion, one of the best writers drawing breath on the planet currently.
1:07.8	So it was very cool to meet her.
1:09.4	Catherine Schultz is a staff writer at the New Yorker who has a new book called Lost
1:13.3	and Found, a memoir, which is really about her processing a huge loss in her personal
1:20.2	life and then a huge gain.
1:22.9	And then also musing in a very compelling way about how to live in a world where this
1:28.2	happiness and pain inevitably commingle, in other words, how to live with contradiction.
1:34.4	In this conversation, we talk about how humans experience grief, a gift that you can give
1:40.2	to anybody who's grieving, why she loves the cliches that remind us to enjoy the moment
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