The thing that I think all of us have seen six billion times with people who first open up a relationship is person A maybe long ago they got used to the fact that like they and their partner don't go on date

nights, maybe their partner doesn't court them or woo them so much, they've just kind of accepted

that and then when they see their partner

suddenly doing all that for someone who's new and shiny it can bring up I think this

huge up swelling of the whole backlog of unfairness. It's tricky because in that case I want to

validate yeah sometimes that's what you need to realize not I've been wanting that

for my partner for years now I've been wanting to still be wooed and pursued and treated as

precious. And so on the one hand I'm like yeah I think that's probably a good

flag that's indicating ooh something in the relationship maybe needs to change or maybe this person needs to be asking more for what they want from their partner and making sure that they're getting it.

But I do think it can sometimes transmute into this more aggressive version.

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On this episode of the Multieery Podcast, we're discussing aggressive fairness in

non-monogamy. We all want our relationships to be fair and equitable, but is that an achievable goal in a relationship style as

fluid as non-monogamy?

And what about in monogamy?

How does fairness show up there?

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