439: Birth Order and Sibling Squabbles
Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs
Karen Stubbs
4.9 • 936 Ratings
🗓️ 22 October 2024
⏱️ 27 minutes
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Summary
Are your kids’ personalities shaped by their birth order? In today’s episode, Karen and Emily explore how birth order influences personality. They share insights from their own families and tackle questions like, “How do I help my oldest think of others before herself?” and “How can I teach my daughter to let go of things without holding on to everything?” Plus, Emily talks about how she’s using the BOAW Moms app to keep up with studies and episodes!
Episode Recap:
2:00 Emily is loving using the BOAW Moms app to watch studies and look up podcast episodes
3:45 Karen and Emily share how their personalities were shaped by their birth order
7:13 Is it possible to avoid reinforcing birth order stereotypes as a parent?
10:25 How do I help my 5 year old let go of things? She wants to hold onto all the things!
15:24 How do I help my oldest daughter think of others before herself?
20:45 How do I help nurture my daughter’s kindness?
24:50 Send in your question on the app using the “Ask Karen” section
Scripture for Reflection:
Galatians 6:9 (NASB) “Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary.”
Questions for Discussion:
- How do you think birth order has influenced your children’s personalities? Can you see any traits that match typical birth order stereotypes?
- How do you encourage your child to let go of unnecessary items or habits without making them feel pressured?
- What did you think of Karen’s story about taking Kelsey to the Dominican Republic and the change she saw in her heart afterwards? Is that something you have done or would consider doing with your children?
- Karen mentioned several times that some issues we see in our kids are heart issues while others are merely maturity issues (things they will grow out of)- do you feel like you can tell the difference in your children?
Resources:
- Check out Karen’s new study: The Counter-Intuitive Parent on Right Now Media or from the BOAW Moms store
- Download the BOAW Moms app: [App Store] [Google Play]
- Kevin Leman’s Birth Order book: https://amzn.to/3AdPCzI
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | How can I avoid some of the birth order parenting stereotypes? |
| 0:03.6 | For example, my baby, age 2, gets away with so much terrible behavior |
| 0:07.9 | just because he is the baby and my older kids and I do what he wants. |
| 0:13.0 | Or my oldest kid is very much the little mom and takes on too much because she's the oldest. |
| 0:18.0 | Greg is a firstborn, my sister Fran is a firstborn, Kelsey is our firstborn, all of them, high responsibility is at the top of their charts. |
| 0:26.3 | Yeah, like they feel responsible for things that I don't even think about. |
| 0:30.3 | Yeah, period. |
| 0:31.5 | Very true. |
| 0:32.1 | So I don't think you can get that out of a child. And Abbey, definitely |
| 0:36.7 | the characteristics of the baby. I had the characteristics of the baby. You can't get that out of us. Of course you want to help me with this |
| 0:44.1 | project. Why wouldn't you want to help me with this project because I'm adorable |
| 0:48.1 | and I'm going to charm my way and you're going to help me do it and so people say |
| 0:51.8 | yes. Welcome to Wire Talk, where we encourage and equip moms |
| 0:56.0 | by answering practical questions about motherhood. |
| 0:58.0 | We want to help instill God's truth in your heart, |
| 1:00.0 | so you can experience more joy and peace on your journey of motherhood. |
| 1:04.8 | Are you ready for some truth? Let's dive in. |
| 1:10.0 | Hi and welcome to Wire Talk. I'm Emily Kurossik your host and with me is the most amazing |
| 1:15.2 | Karen Stubbs aka mom. Oh you're so sweet mom I just want to know that I did take your |
| 1:21.4 | advice and I downloaded the app. |
| 1:23.4 | Oh and it's wonderful. |
| 1:25.0 | Tell me about it. |
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