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The Bad Girls Bible - Sex, Relationships, Dating, Love & Marriage Advice

#43 Cheating, Miscarriage and Abandonment – A Listener Explains How She Conquered Them All

The Bad Girls Bible - Sex, Relationships, Dating, Love & Marriage Advice

Sean Jameson

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

3.8899 Ratings

🗓️ 14 April 2019

⏱️ 34 minutes

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Summary

On the show today we’re talking to someone who has suffered immense emotional trauma but who has come out the other side stronger, wiser and ready to love again. Our guest really inspires those who have been through divorce, a partner’s infidelity, miscarriage or have been dealt an unfair hand, sharing openly about her two failed marriages, suffering multiple miscarriages and discovering her husband’s affair while pregnant in their first year of marriage.

To add to our guest’s array of disappointments, she poignantly tells us about the letter that ended her second marriage and which left her devastated and alone. Having a partner abandon her after what she believed to have been twelve wonderful years, she had to work through the difficult circumstances all on her own, including managing the business they owned together, while he effectively disappeared for weeks.

She talks about struggling with feelings of guilt and not being enough, and how therapy and support from friends and family restored her hope of finding love again. For more about how this woman conquered the many obstacles in her life, don’t miss out on this episode of the Bad Girls Bible Podcast!

Key Points From This Episode:

  • More about Susan’s background and being adopted into a wonderful family.
  • How she met her second husband and their early days together.
  • The age gap and her thought processes around it.
  • Falling pregnant a second time and having a series of miscarriages following the first.
  • Why it is so difficult for Australian citizens to adopt.
  • Her unfulfilling first marriage and their lack of intimacy.
  • Her gut feeling about her second husband’s infidelity.
  • How her partner’s infidelity consumed her and realizing that she needed to forgive.
  • The devastating letter that ended their marriage.
  • Being concerned for her husband’s mental state and worrying that he might end his own life.
  • The hardest thing about his abandonment and how it impacted her daughter.
  • Struggling with feelings of inadequacy and feeling partly responsible for his decision to leave.
  • Having to deal with her pain, their business and sharing the news with others by herself.
  • Getting to a place where she is ready to pursue love again.
  • The importance of not being reactive is such circumstances.
  • And much more!

Tweetables:

“I thought, hang on a minute, I’m pregnant, we’re in our first year of marriage and you are cheating on me? I was really devastated.” — Susan [0:15:56]

“I felt like he was my soul mate, that’s why it was just so soul-destroying when he left me in the manner that he left me.” — Susan [0:24:01]

“I’m a hopeless romantic, I believe in love still, so, I’m willing to put myself out there.” — Susan [0:31:40]

Transcript

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0:00.0

I just had this really bad feeling in my gut. Something wasn't right and I looked through his phone.

0:08.8

One night and found all these pictures and messages from this person and I was just flawed. I could not believe it. I thought

0:20.3

hang a minute I'm pregnant we're in our first year of marriage and you are cheating on me.

0:25.1

I was really, I was devastated.

0:27.6

This is the Bad Girls Bible Podcast. I'm your host Sean Jameson and this is the place

0:38.6

where I interview experts and professionals and everyone in between to teach you how to dramatically improve your relationships

0:45.5

and have more enjoyable sex more often.

0:49.2

And by the way, if you want to learn my most important sex tips and techniques that will bring you and your partner

0:54.6

back arching, spine tingling, toe curling orgasms that will keep them coming back for more.

0:59.4

You will find them in my discrete and private newsletter.

1:02.4

Just go to Bad Girls Bible.com them in my discrete and private newsletter.

1:02.6

Just go to Bad Girls Bible.com slash newsletter, enter your name and email address and I will

1:07.6

send these sex tips straight to your inbox.

1:10.9

Today I'm talking to Susan about her marriage of 12 years to a man 10 years her junior, how she found out that her husband had been cheating on her and what she went through losing a pregnancy along with how she dealt with him ultimately leaving her husband that is.

1:28.0

Susan thanks so much for coming on the Bad Girls Bible podcast to tell your story.

1:32.8

Thank you for having me. I'm very happy to be here to share my story.

1:36.4

Well, it's great to have you. So I'd love to start off with just with your background,

1:41.6

maybe a little bit about where you grew up and what your kind of family life was like when you were a kid.

1:47.0

Okay, well I grew up in a small town in Bendigo and Victoria and I'm actually adopted and my parents couldn't have

1:56.8

their own children so I was the chosen one which was all very nice and And I, yeah, I've had a great upbringing.

2:06.0

My parents were just wonderful, loving, giving parents.

2:10.7

I couldn't ask for better upbringing actually and I did later on in life meet my birth mother and I actually have seven full siblings so I was put up for adoption when I was obviously very little baby.

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