Welcome back to Your Anxiety Toolkit, everybody. You have caught me in a funk today.

My husband is out of town, the kids are both homesick, I had work I needed to get done, it is raining,

the dogs are throwing, crazy tantrums themselves, and I caught myself starting

to drop into an old default of mine, which is what I call an adult-sized tantrum.

An adult-sized tantrum is where you really gather, and I call it gathering, you gather all this data on how bad things are.

You're listing things off.

You're saying this is bad and this is bad and this is wrong and it shouldn't be this way

and it should be easier and you start to blame other people and you start to get angry

and you start to beat yourself up.

You guys, take a breath with me.

We've all been there.

This used to be the default place of my brain.

But through practice and repetition,

I have learned a new default,

and that is to acknowledge and accept that things aren't going the way I want and pivot

towards loving kindness. And I'm talking about unconditional, nonstop, radical loving kindness

directed towards myself and others in the moment. And I'm talking about unconditional, nonstop, radical loving kindness directed towards myself and others in the moment. And today,

I'm going to share with you how I do it and we're actually going to do it together. So let's go.

So you're in a tough place right now and you need something to change.

If that's so, I have exactly what you need.

And the reason I know this to be true, because it's not very often I would say I know exactly

what you need because we're all different, but I have

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