421: Let Other People Be Mad At You

Shameless Leadership

Sara Dean

Education, Management, How To, Business, Self-improvement

4.7 • 800 Ratings

🗓️ 9 March 2020

⏱️ 28 minutes

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Summary

‘Tis the season of disappointing other people. Fa la la la la…. As my platform has grown so has my exposure to judgement. In my personal and professional life, there are people who have been disappointed in me, even angry with me, over the last year or so. I will be honest with you, this kind of thing used to really eat me up inside. I’m not going to tell you that I’m super-cool with people being upset with me now. But I can tell you that I have done a lot of work to be ok with some people being mad at me - and me NOT OWNING their feelings. The truth is this: a person’s emotions are their own responsibility. I have repeatedly found that the people who are disappointed in me or angry with me have one or more of these things in common: A poor sense of self A general lack of self-awareness Poor coping skills A weak or completely lacking support system For these folks, I will forgive them in order to make peace in my own life so I can move forward. I will not make space for their energy or abuse, In fact, I will actively distance and separate myself from it. And, most importantly, I will not take responsibility for their emotions. If I hurt someone or cause someone harm, I will own that and apologize. I will take radical responsibility for myself and my actions - but not for others reactions to my actions. This is what it looks like to have boundaries. This is what it looks like to be a grown-up. It is not easy. But it is the only way to show all the way up for those who matter most to me. I would be doing myself and my loved ones a massive disservice if I took on my haters anger or displaced feelings. The same goes for you. How do you stay in your own way when it comes to other people’s opinions and judgments of you? You must take radical responsibility for that. This episode will teach you how. Links mentioned: Book: The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday Thank you to our sponsors: Openfit: Right now, my listeners get an extended 14-day FREE trial membership to OPENFIT when you text SHAMELESS to 505050. For All Moms Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fam-for-all-moms/id1494037915 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	This is the Shameless Mom Academy episode 421.
0:03.9	Show notes for this episode, including any links mentioned in the episode, as well as any
0:07.3	discount codes from our sponsors, can be found by going to shamelessmom.com and clicking on episode
0:12.0	421.
0:18.0	Welcome to the Shameless Mom Academy.
0:20.1	I'm your host, Sarah Dean.
0:21.9	I'm here to give you and other passionate, driven, unapologetic moms, tools, resources,
0:27.8	and a little bit of humor to help you lead more positive, powerful, and purposeful lives every damn day.
0:34.0	One of the best things about the Shameless Mom Academy is our community.
0:37.0	So be sure to join us in our free
0:38.5	private Facebook group to connect with other shameless moms just like you. You can find us over
0:43.6	at shamelessom.com forward slash Facebook. All right. Let's dive into today's episode.
0:53.7	Hello, shameless moms. Happy Monday. Here we are another Monday, another week. If your Monday is off
1:00.4	to a ridiculous start, because you know, that's how Mondays can be, just know that you are not alone.
1:06.0	And one of the most powerful things that you can do when things get off to a bumpy start,
1:10.4	a rocky start, a rocky start,
1:11.3	a frustrating, exhausting, overwhelming start is to ground yourself, to center yourself, to take a
1:16.9	moment. So I hope that this episode can be that moment for you. I'm excited to talk about this today.
1:23.7	This is a fun topic for me because it's so uncomfortable. And I often talk to you all about
1:30.2	things that have been or sometimes currently are uncomfortable for me because we all get to learn
1:34.8	together that way. And I find that I get most stuck when I hide things or I sit alone with things. And so just know that when I share hard things with you,
1:48.1	it helps me feel less alone and more connected. And I hope that that inspires you to do the same,
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