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Hey, you're on air with Ella, and today I want to talk to you about a concept that I am calling

form before performance, which of course I will explain. But first, let me tell

you what inspired my need to talk about this with you. There are two phenomena of the human condition

that I not only observe, but that I experience myself. Two observations that I want to make is

whenever we are trying to pursue something, like a goal,

a target of some kind and achievement, number one, we want the outcome when we want it.

Okay?

Like, it sounds simple.

We want the outcome when we want it, like on our terms.

And the second tendency that I observe regularly is that we beat

ourselves up for not being at a destination at which we believe that we should have already

arrived. Okay, I'm going to say that again. We beat ourselves up for not having arrived at the

destination that we think we should have already reached. Okay? Can you relate to that

in any area of your life? Let me give you an example. Maybe that will help. I start a business.

I want to have it pulling in $1,000 or $10,000 a month and I lose patience because it isn't doing

that within three months or within six months. Or I start a business and I see other people

are succeeding in that business, probably making bank and I realize I'm never going to get there

because they are already there and there's no room for us both, right? Like I'm going to compare my

chapter one to their chapter 30 and I'm always going to fall short. Or let's take our bodies,

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