410-Turn Tension to Thanksgiving (4 Steps)
Delight Your Marriage
Belah Rose
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🗓️ 22 November 2023
⏱️ 23 minutes
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Summary
Tomorrow is the day (in the US) we set aside to be grateful.
Or it's a day we set aside to get frustrated with family, binge eat, and watch football.
Just kidding.
I invite you to do Thanksgiving this year, Jesus way.
Let's allow peace, joy, and thanksgiving being the most important aspects of this holiday.
Everything else is after those.
Let's be intentional to not allow wounds of the past (even from yesterday) to rob our kids or extended family of the opportunity to see how Jesus followers love each other. Whether they deserve it or not.
I want to just encourage you to do a few things if your marriage is tense right now.
Take 100% ownership to turn it to thanksgiving. Here are some very basic and very practical steps.
Love,
Belah
PS - If you'd like our help to turn your marriage around, we're here for you. Your first step is a free Clarity Call: delightyourmarriage.com/cc
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| 0:00.0 | Hey, good morning or good afternoon whenever you're listening to this. I wanted to just release a brief |
| 0:07.3 | episode before Thanksgiving. And I'm just calling it from tension to Thanksgiving because |
| 0:14.1 | that's what I want for you. I want Thanksgiving to really be an opportunity to celebrate God's goodness in your life. |
| 0:24.0 | And you may be wondering, well, Bella, I don't have a whole lot to celebrate this Thanksgiving |
| 0:30.0 | because marriage is this way or family is this way or finances are this way or all of it all of it the state of the world these |
| 0:40.3 | things that are going on and we have a lot of people from not u.s time and so obviously this is a |
| 0:48.3 | u.s. specific thanksgiving holiday however i think no matter where you are in the world, you can |
| 0:55.2 | gain from this. So essentially, what is tension? What is tension in a relationship? I would |
| 1:06.0 | define it as friction, not feeling at ease, not feeling connected, disunity, disharmony, easily frustrated, |
| 1:24.1 | holding a grudge, replaying a scenario in your mind over and over and over again, and just a |
| 1:33.4 | general tightness in your body around your spouse. So what I want to say is how can you, as an individual, |
| 1:43.2 | own this situation? |
| 1:47.0 | Because you may be thinking, yeah, I need to just forward this to my spouse, |
| 1:53.0 | and then they'll figure out how to fix their side because that's really the problem. |
| 1:58.0 | And I absolutely understand that feeling and that temptation. I hear it. |
| 2:04.6 | I absolutely hear you. And I have been there. I get there still. And that's when, by God's grace, |
| 2:11.7 | I've done this long enough that I have to remind myself that wait a second, I get to take ownership. I get to take responsibility. |
| 2:21.1 | And no, I didn't marry my spouse for the things they could do for me. I didn't marry the person |
| 2:28.9 | down the street that I see, oh my gosh, they're doing all these great things for their spouse or, gosh, I'm, |
| 2:35.3 | I'm listening to these marriage podcasts if only my spouse would do that for me. And I've got to tell |
| 2:42.3 | you, that's harmful. That way of thinking is harmful to your connection. And it increases the tension. |
| 2:53.1 | Why would it increase the tension? |
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