#402 - How to Talk to Your Partner About Money, Without Fighting!

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

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🗓️ 20 May 2024

⏱️ 32 minutes

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Summary

Are you tired of all the drama that surrounds money conversations in your relationship?

This is an issue that so many couples deal with. Money is a highly emotional topic, and it can be very triggering, especially when we don't feel respected or understood.

It takes a high degree of empathy and intention to communicate about a hot-button topic like money and create a financial plan with your partner that both of you can feel good about. But that is a key to long-term success and satisfaction in your relationship.

On today's episode, I'm going to tell you how to talk about money without fighting, so you and your partner can get on the same page and grow together in both money and love.

Tune in to learn about:

01:30 The Root Cause of Money Fights in Relationships
03:26 Money as a Symbol of Deeper Problems
04:47 The Emotional Significance of Money
07:39 Respecting Differences Around Money
08:05 The Limitations of Standard Advice
12:50 The Rider and the Elephant Metaphor
16:33 The Structured Process of Financial Counseling
18:39 Unpacking the History and Family Culture Around Money
19:37 Understanding the Value Systems Attached to Money
24:22 Creating a Shared Vision for Managing Finances
26:44 Talking About Finances Productively

And more! I hope you'll join me, and that you'll find this episode helpful.

xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

P.S. — If you'd like support from an expert couples counselor specializing in financial counseling for couples, schedule a free consultation.

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0:00.0	This is Dr. Lisa Marie-Bavie and you're listening to the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast.
0:06.7	On today's show, we are diving into something that can be pretty tender.
0:14.4	And it is also a crucial aspect of healthy relationships.
0:19.4	Being able to talk about money without the drama for a couple
0:26.0	to get on the same page about finances without it turning into a disaster as it so often does.
0:35.0	It can be so fraud.
0:36.3	So if you've ever found yourself in a conversation with your
0:40.5	partner about finances that has turned into a full-blown freak out free for all, or if you're not
0:48.0	talking about money at all and it's turning into like a resenty kind of thing, Stay tuned for some valuable insights and also some real world strategies that you can use
0:59.7	to create alignment around finances.
1:08.0	Our mood music today is from Fulner, We were left alone. We were proud of our pain.
1:12.1	Our mood music today is from Fleet Foxes. The song is A Long Way Past the Past, which will make sense to you by the time we're done with our conversation today.
1:24.5	Because, believe it or not, learning how to successfully talk about money
1:29.8	with your partner often involves doing a pretty deep dive into each of your past.
1:37.3	So, thank you, Fleet Foxes, for setting the mood for us today.
1:42.4	So I'll just say, and I am saying this as a licensed marriage and family therapist,
1:49.9	I'm also a licensed psychologist, but I mean, really, I specialize in healthy relationships
1:54.9	and I will tell you that in my many, many years of practice, I have worked with so many
2:00.5	couples or even individuals
2:02.5	who are in partnerships who are highly stressed about what is going on when it comes to
2:10.1	finances and the intersection of money and their relationships. Money and financial matters are just notorious for causing
2:20.5	tension in relationships and whether it is, you know, being on the same page about a budget or
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