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started. Today we're going to talk about four simple steps to improve behavior.

Sometimes you may hear when you ask a child what to do is too hard. I'm terrible at it.

I can't do it. Or maybe they don't say anything. They just melt down.

Here we go. Really important. So whatever you're doing for multitasking,

you want to tune back in. Number one, believe them. Initially, you might think when a child is

not doing what you ask, that they're just trying to give you a hard time. They're being difficult.

Maybe they're acting like something's a big deal when it's not. Okay. It's a big deal for them.

I do see this sometimes where people say, oh, is this a little bit, little deal or a big deal?

Believe them when they say it's a big deal or believe

them when they're acting like it's a big deal. They feel like it's a big deal. Don't take that

away from them. Don't minimize their experience, even though it may not feel big to us.

If you ask them to do something and they've done it before in the past,

what might pop up in your head is, I know they know how to do it. They're just choosing not to.

I want you to put all of those thoughts aside and believe them. So instead of assuming that

they're trying to be difficult, believe them that they are

struggling. Even if they say they don't care, I'm not doing it, I don't care. It may be that it's just

hard. Believe what you are seeing. If something is easy, kids will just do it. They'll just do it. It won't be a big deal. They're not going to show you that they're struggling. They will just do it. It's much easier for them to do something that's not a big deal for them than to fall apart and be exhausted and argue or fight with you. Okay. So being upset

with your child or your student will not help them. It won't help you. It will actually hurt

both of you and likely damage your relationship. So of course, number one is going to be believe them.

Number two, categorize and communicate. So the child is likely struggling and having a hard time

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