Hi live, I'm my ethnicity all the time. I'm half Japanese and half Jamaican, I'm

Filipino, I'm a Cambodian, I don't know, I say so yeah I say a lot of bomb

Indonesian so yeah. Because nobody really knows what Indonesia is so whenever I

feel like not giving people small talk like oh my god where is that where do

you guys what do you guys speak I don't I hate those questions so I just like yeah

I'm Filipino.

Hey everyone it's Ben and welcome to the secret room. We often have different

views of our parents than the outside world to us. We know them as our

fathers and mothers, they're the people who nurtured and taught us and as we

engage and get to the stage of life our parents were in when we were kids

there's a reckoning like how do they do all that or what gee I guess I'm an

adult now and while the stories you hear about your parents younger days can be

at odds with the view we have of them as the responsible people who put food on

the table and button you up for school in a cold winter morning but yeah

they're they're still people and they had lives before you ever showed up.

Dalya Baita just learned a secret long held by her father she files this report

today for the secret room. When I was growing up we had this picture of my dad

from when he was in the Air Force around the time of the Vietnam War he's wearing

like you know the top gun Air Force jumper fatigue thing and he's sitting in a

chair relaxing he's got a cigarette in hand and he's just having a great time

it looks really cool so I always knew he was cool but when I was talking to my

family about the podcast he ended up telling this story you're about to hear and

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