3937: Is My Self-Hatred Getting in the Way of Love? by Tamsen Firestone of Psych Alive on Self-Worth and Love

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Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Education, Self-improvement

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🗓️ 8 March 2026

⏱️ 12 minutes

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Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3937: Tamsen Firestone explores how a deeply ingrained negative self-image can quietly sabotage intimacy, causing us to reject the very love we crave. She reveals how early family dynamics shape a critical inner voice that keeps us loyal to a painful identity, even when a partner sees us more positively. By challenging this inner narrative and embracing a more accurate sense of self, we open the door to deeper connection and lasting love. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.psychalive.org/is-my-self-hatred-getting-in-the-way-of-love/ Quotes to ponder: "When we first fall in love, we have a positive response to feeling understood and valued by someone who matters to us." "Once our negative identity is formed, we go on to elaborate on it and behave accordingly, thereby constantly reinforcing it." "It is a sad fact that we react against love because it contradicts our negative beliefs about ourselves." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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