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🗓️ 20 November 2024
⏱️ 73 minutes
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"In general, people who have more optimistic expectations about the possibility of forming a connection are more likely to overlook superficial differences, and wait to see if they feel the spark of connection. They tend to have more diverse relationships, while those with fixed assumptions tend to have more limited social circles. Our beliefs about social connection can become self-fulfilling prophecies." —David Robson, author of The Laws of Connection: The Scientific Secrets of Building a Strong Social Network
The quality of our social connections determines not only our enjoyment of our everydays, whether we are at work or in our personal lives, it also affects our health and wellbeing. While this news will likely shock nobody, what might shock us are the ways we unconsciously or unknowingly partake in habits that obstruct the opportunity for healthier, and thus more enjoyable connections with others, of all stripes.
Based on cultural conditioning or insecurity within ourselves or what was modeled to us while growing up, we may have assumed there were certain ways to not only engage with the world, but what we should share and how much of our true feelings we should express about any given event in our lives. And so upon reading science writer David Robson's latest book, and discovering various research that dispelled previously held approaches as being helpful as well examples of how and why certain approaches were helpful or unhelpful, I took note not only while acknowledging where I could grow and learn, but wanting to share with TSLL community. Why? While Robson shares 13 laws of connection, each are multi-faceted, so based on what is working well for us now or conversely what we are struggling with when it comes to connection, we need worry less on knowing what the 'laws' are and more about ourselves and where we would benefit from applying new knowledge and thus learning new skills in how to connect sincerely, well and consistently with others to build a social network that elevates not only our lives but those who are a part of our social network. A two way street, as they say, and sometimes we just didn't yet know how to do that - to connect well, and that is where this book comes to provide the insights we can learn.
In today's post I have pulled ten specific approaches and skills that caught my attention for cultivating and maintaining a wide breadth of relationships in our lives. Whether it is your colleagues, or romantic partner, child or parent, neighbor or friend, all of the skills below will enhance those relationships.
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0:00.0 | Welcome to the simple sophisticate, where in 2014, this podcast premiered. |
0:08.9 | And now in its 11th season, the show continues to focus on the same principles it was founded upon, |
0:15.0 | the art of living a life of quality over quantity. |
0:19.0 | Topics range from creating an everyday life you love living, |
0:22.2 | strengthening mindfulness practices, building a capsule wardrobe, preparing seasonally delicious |
0:27.5 | meals, traveling and exploring France and Britain, and living life to the fullest without |
0:33.1 | breaking the bank, because living well really is quite simple. I'm your host, Shannon Ables, |
0:40.1 | and whether you're listening on your commute, exercising, working in the garden in route, |
0:44.7 | or returning from that dream destination, or sitting down with a hot cuppa or a cafe |
0:50.5 | au lae, thank you for tuning in. Let's get started. Welcome to episode 392 of the simple |
1:02.1 | sophisticate. And welcome to an episode that I've been waiting to share with you about this time |
1:08.8 | of year as we are just stepping into the holiday season |
1:12.2 | because we are going to be likely seeing, spending time, interacting with all sorts of people, chosen or not chosen. |
1:21.6 | And it can be a very joyous time, but it can also be a time when anxiety increases, stress increases, |
1:31.3 | and there are ways for us to improve or to reduce the unwanted feelings. |
1:38.2 | If we have the skills, which brings me to today's topic, which is the art of connection, how we can connect well |
1:47.4 | and build strong connections with other people of all different relationship types, |
1:52.7 | whether it's intimate, so family and our partner, our children, or maybe it's our neighbors |
1:57.8 | or the community or the people we see at work that we don't get to choose whether we're with them or not. |
2:03.5 | And how to make those connections healthy and strong. |
2:08.0 | So the book that inspired this podcast episode is one that was released just this past June. |
2:13.3 | And I picked it up and read it at the end of the summer. |
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