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Well, let's let's talk quickly about something that I know you've studied in depth. And that's

sexual differences with a couple, whether it's libido differences, you know, arousal disorder

for what are both in a partner and just generally, you know, enjoying and maximizing sexual

fulfillment and a marriage. Do you see that a lot? Is that something you can actually get there

before? Oh, yeah, for sure. And I do see it a lot. And I see it a lot even in couples that don't

come in originally for that problem. So it's, I mean, sexuality is such a huge part of our relationships.

In fact, I see it as unethical as a marriage and therapist to not ask about that even if it's not

what's coming up and what they're bringing to the table is their initial complaints. So I think

it's definitely something that's important to assess and understand where they're at in that

department. So, but then there's a lot of people who come in just for those reasons. You know,

generally they have a good marriage or they have things that are working well for them. But in this

one area, they just are really struggling and oftentimes don't understand why. And it's difficult

to talk about this again with a broad stroke because there's so many individual experiences.

And it's probably difficult for me to talk about it without the bias of the Mormon culture

because that's where I work primarily. So primarily in my practice, you know, I probably have more

of the man being the high libido partner and the woman being a low libido partner, which is somewhat

a cultural issue, not just a biological issue. And but again, I don't want to just talk about it in

those terms because I know there are many marriages where the woman is the higher libido partner and

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