39 - The Fear of Abandonment w/ Joe Ryan
Adult Child
Andrea Ashley
4.9 • 1.9K Ratings
🗓️ 8 December 2021
⏱️ 68 minutes
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Summary
Returning guest, Joe Ryan, is on the pod to discuss the fear of abandonment and how to overcome it. Joe is the host of the podcast "It’s Not You, It’s Your Trauma - Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, Anxiety & Recovery".
The fear of abandonment is common amongst those who grew up in an alcoholic or dysfunctional family. Many of us grew up in homes where we were either physically or emotionally abandoned. As a result, our abandonment issues show up in adulthood as either avoidance or codependency. In order to address our abandonment trauma, we must revisit our childhood abandonment scenes and stories and feel the associated feelings we have avoided our entire lives.
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| 0:00.0 | You get abandonment issues, and you get abandonment issues. |
| 0:04.0 | We all get abandonment issues. |
| 0:07.0 | My name is Andrea, and this is Adult Child. |
| 0:11.0 | Welcome back to Adult Child, where we take a deep dive into the impact of growing up in a dysfunctional family. |
| 0:34.0 | To any new listeners, welcome to Adult Child. |
| 0:37.0 | I already said that. |
| 0:38.0 | But I am Andrea, and I'm a shit show, and I run things around here today. |
| 0:42.0 | Back by popular demand, we are diving deep with Joe Ryan, the host of the podcast. |
| 0:49.0 | It's not you, it's your trauma. |
| 0:53.0 | I'm talking to him about a bunch of things, one of which being the fear of abandonment. |
| 1:00.0 | I was just so glad that I could find somebody that has this fear of abandonment that can share with us all. |
| 1:08.0 | What is that like? |
| 1:09.0 | None of us have first-hand experience with that. |
| 1:12.0 | I sure as hell do not. |
| 1:14.0 | Actually, in the Big Red Book, it says, |
| 1:19.0 | The common denominator among adult children from a variety of dysfunctional homes is chronic loss and abandonment. |
| 1:29.0 | So yeah, when adult child mean, instead of mean like, oh, that's my favorite movie too, or oh, pizza's my favorite food too. |
| 1:36.0 | We can be like, oh, I have the fear of abandonment too. |
| 1:39.0 | How cool. |
| 1:41.0 | Now, some of us may have been physically abandoned. |
| 1:45.0 | Others, including myself, were subjected to emotional abandonment. |
| 1:50.0 | So emotional abandonment is when a parent or caregiver does not provide a child with consistent warm or attentive interactions. |
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