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The Adult Chair Podcast with Michelle Chalfant

383: How To Make Peace With Your Past

The Adult Chair Podcast with Michelle Chalfant

Michelle Chalfant

Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Education, Self-improvement

4.9 • 1.6K Ratings

šŸ—“ļø 7 September 2023

ā±ļø 25 minutes

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Summary

You're here today, doing the work, living from your Adult Chair, becoming who you want to become.Ā 

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It feels really good. But as we live and grow and transform, it can sometimes bring up negative feelings about our past.

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Whether we made mistakes, missed opportunities, were hurt by someone or experienced a life-altering loss, every one of us has something about our past we wish we could change.

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Regret can cut deep – into our very souls – and bring a lot of pain, shame and blame with it.Ā 

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But whenever we live in regret, it causes us to miss another opportunity: the chance to make the most of the moment we have right now.Ā 

In this show, I'm giving you three common reasons we get stuck in the past and six ways to make peace with your past and start living in the present moment.Ā 

You will gain a new perspective on your past and learn to reframe it so you can rewire your brain to live without regret.

Listen to discover:

  • 3 reasons we get stuck in the past (and what to do about them)

  • Why living in present reality is so much better than past reality

  • How to reframe how you think about your past

  • 6 ways to make peace with your past

Remember, today will soon become your past. Will you look back and wish you hadn't spent it stuck in regret? Or will you make the most of the moment and use the power you have right now to be who you want to be today?

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The present moment is such a powerful reality to live in.

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It's here that we find peace and joy. It's here that we have the ability to make this moment one we won't regret.

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"The decision that we made in that moment, I don't care how old you were…the person that we were in that moment, we were showing up the very, very best that we could." - Michelle Chalfant

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"97% of the time, our assumptions are incorrect." - Michelle Chalfant

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"Things that happened in our past, no matter if it's a death or someone has done something to us or we made mistakes, it can be difficult to move on, but it's possible." - Michelle Chalfant

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"When we live in the moment, it's a much different reality. It's almost as if the world opens up." - Michelle ChalfantĀ 

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"Living in the past is like having an anchor tied around our waist trying to move forward." - Michelle ChalfantĀ 

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"What I'm giving you today are ways to move you forward into the moment." - Michelle ChalfantĀ 

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"When we don't feel our emotions around something, guess what? It keeps us stuck." - Michelle ChalfantĀ 

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"When we block our emotions, we're blocking ourselves." - Michelle ChalfantĀ 

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"Forgiveness releases the hold that the past has on you." - Michelle ChalfantĀ 

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"When we get in the habit of going back and beating up on ourselves or being mad about someone else…what we do is we form these neural pathways, and they are not healthy. It's like we set the roadmap in our brains to go back and beat up on self." - Michelle ChalfantĀ 

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LINKS & RESOURCES

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Podcast #381: Summer Series: How To Get Rid of Negative Emotions

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/381/Ā 

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A Guided Meditation for Cleansing Relationships and Cutting Cords

https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/a-guided-meditation-for-cleansing-relationships-and-cutting-cords/

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MORE ADULT CHAIR

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The Adult ChairĀ® Website

https://theadultchair.comĀ Ā Ā 

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The Adult ChairĀ® EventsĀ 

https://theadultchair.com/events/Ā 

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The Adult ChairĀ® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!Ā 

https://theadultchair.com/certificationĀ 

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STAY CONNECTED

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfantĀ 

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/Ā 

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The Adult ChairĀ® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

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Transcript

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0:00.0

Hi, I'm Michelle Shelfand, psychotherapist, holistic life coach, and human just like you,

0:09.4

learning to navigate life challenges.

0:11.8

With over 25 years experience, I teach people how to get healthy using the adult chair model.

0:17.6

The adult chair model is where simple psychology meets grounded spirituality, and it teaches

0:23.0

us how to become healthy adults.

0:26.2

From anxiety and depression to codependency and relationship issues, you can use the adult

0:30.7

chair for just about anything.

0:33.8

Each week, I share practical tips, tools and advice from myself and a wide range of experts

0:40.0

on how to get unstuck, how to live authentically, and how to truly love yourself, all while

0:45.8

sitting in your adult chair.

0:48.8

Welcome to the adult chair podcast.

0:51.2

Hello, everybody, and welcome to the adult chair podcast.

0:56.4

I am Michelle Shelfand.

0:58.6

We're back.

1:00.3

Yes, indeed.

1:01.3

This is our first show for the new year.

1:05.7

We have been on summer break, and we have been boy.

1:10.5

I like to say I took a lot of time off.

1:13.5

I did take a lot of kayak time.

1:14.8

I'm not going to lie.

1:15.8

I love my kayak, and I love being out in the water, but I've been pretty busy.

1:20.0

I've been busy writing a course for you guys, and you're going to start hearing about it

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