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Brett McKay here, and welcome to another edition of the Art of Manliness Podcast.

Being successful in life requires social adeptness,

and part of that social adeptness is balancing two seemingly opposing social strategies,

competing and cooperating.

But how do you know which approach to take,

and the hundreds of different social relationships you navigate day in and day out?

For example, should you out of your way to promote your achievements to your boss,

or should you spend more time helping your fellow co-workers?

My guest today explores these subtle and often complex questions in his book,

Friend or Foe, when to cooperate, when to compete, and how to succeed at both.

His name is Adam Galinsky, and he's a professor at the Columbia Business School,

and to day on the show, Adam and I discuss why all of our relationships,

even close personal ones, are both competitive and cooperative,

and how our natural tendency to compare ourselves to others either causes us to cooperate or compete.

Adam then shares how cooperation can be to high status and success and power,

but how once we gain status and power, our natural tendency is to become a big giant jerk,

which leads to our downfall.

He then provides some research back advice on how to avoid that from happening to you.

Adam and I then discuss why teasing nicknames are former social bonding,

and why putting all of your education traditional

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