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Optimal Living Daily - Personal Development and Self-Improvement

3690: Don't Make a Thing Out of It by David Cain of Raptitude on Unnecessary Suffering and Finding Peace

Optimal Living Daily - Personal Development and Self-Improvement

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Education, Mental Health, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.63.2K Ratings

🗓️ 3 August 2025

⏱️ 8 minutes

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Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3690: David Cain explores how we often turn fleeting problems into enduring struggles by mentally amplifying them. By learning not to “make a thing out of it,” we can reduce unnecessary suffering and let difficulties pass without becoming emotional narratives. His practical insight shows how small mindset shifts can make life smoother and more peaceful. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.raptitude.com/2014/08/dont-make-a-thing-out-of-it/ Quotes to ponder: "Most of our suffering comes from what we do after a problem appears." "The trick is not to give the moment any new meaning it doesn’t already have." "Let the bad moment hang there, raw and unprocessed, without turning it into a story." Episode references: Wherever You Go, There You Are: https://www.amazon.com/Wherever-You-There-Are-Mindfulness/dp/1401307787 The Power of Now: https://www.amazon.com/Power-Now-Guide-Spiritual-Enlightenment/dp/1577314808 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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This is Optimal Living Daily. Don't make a thing out of it by David Kane of Raptor.com.

0:37.3

And I'm Justin Mollick, your host and narrator.

0:40.1

And now let's get right to it as we optimize her life.

0:47.0

Don't Make a Thing Out of It by David Kane of Raptitude.com.

0:52.1

One of my favorite articles in The Onion shows a picture of a man dressed up to leave for work

0:57.7

with his hand on the doorknob and his ear against the door. The headline reads,

1:02.9

Exit from apartment delayed by 20 seconds to avoid pleasantries with neighbor. It made me laugh

1:09.4

because I know I've done exactly that many times.

1:13.1

The article has been shared 30,000 times on Facebook, so apparently it's a thing for many people, too.

1:19.8

Now that I think about it, my neighbors have probably done the same thing to me.

1:24.4

What's interesting is that I never really decided to do that. I never consciously thought about

1:29.6

avoiding pleasantries with the neighbors. I just got into the habit of slowing down if I heard

1:34.2

shuffling outside, sometimes hesitating at the door until it goes away. After seeing this

1:40.5

Onion article, whenever I noticed that neurotic impulse to avoid the neighbors,

1:45.4

I feel silly and just go whenever I'm done getting ready. Somehow I had made a thing out of having

1:52.1

hallway interactions with the neighbors. Because I apparently spent the last two years avoiding my

1:57.6

neighbors, there isn't much to these pleasantries when they do happen. I don't really

2:02.2

know these people, so there's nothing to catch up on. I just give them a genuine good morning and go.

2:08.7

I feel like I've solved a problem that never should have been a problem. Shrinking Your World

2:14.2

Now that it's summer, I go for a bike ride almost every evening. I live in a

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