343: How Setting Healthy Boundaries Contributes to True Contentment

The Simple Sophisticate - Intelligent Living Paired with Signature Style

Shannon Ables

Education, Self-improvement, Britain, Contentment, Podcast, Society & Culture, Simplicity, France, Style, Lifestyle

4.7 • 915 Ratings

🗓️ 2 November 2022

⏱️ 47 minutes

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Summary

"Creating healthy boundaries is how you ensure that you're happy and well in your relationships and in life." —Nedra Glover Tawwab, Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself

To have boundaries that are respected is to give your life and your days peace of mind.

Just as a sovereign state provides the foundation for its citizens to thrive instead of merely surviving due to the absence of worrying if what they need to live well might not be theirs tomorrow, so too do the boundaries we assert, communicate and actively uphold. But as is alluded to, we must engage consciously, intentionally and consistently.

Licensed therapist for more than 14 years, Nedra Glover Tawwab wrote a book, a highly successful and praised both by readers and critics book, titled Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself, that is exactly what her book provides - a guide. A guide sharing the tools, but also the reasons to motivate readers to welcome boundaries into their daily lives, whether with their friendships, work, children, parents, romantic partnership and even regarding our use of social media and technology. Boundaries, healthy boundaries, as she explains the non-healthy boundaries and why they are destructive and deteriorate the quality of our lives, are an essential piece of our everyday life if we wish to live a life of contentment. And her book is a hands-on step-by-step guide teaching you how and which boundaries you need.

Upon reading this book, I immediately knew I had found a valuable resource, one to not only utilize now for different aspects of my life, but no doubt in the future either when I want to be reminded or discover what I need to do, how to communicate and validate my decisions to honor my needs. As well, just as importantly, is to understand and honor what others needs as well and to not take their boundary setting personally.

In today's episode/post I would like to share with you how setting the right boundaries contributes, and exclusively contributes an essential ingredient that elevates the quality of our lives, thereby deepening our true contentment experienced in our everydays. If what is shared today speaks to you, I highly recommend picking up a copy of the book where you will find the specific examples of what to do/say, what not to do/say in very specific, as well as different situations.

~The Simple Sophisticate, episode #343

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0:00.0	Thank you for tuning in to the simple sophisticated podcast. The show that is part of the simply
0:10.0	luxurious life online destination, cultivating true contentment the art of living a life of
0:16.5	quality over quantity. Visit the blog, The Simply Luxurious life at our simplified URL TSL.co or The Simply Luxurious Life.com to find the show notes for each podcast episode as well as much more weekly content to elevate your everyday and deepen
0:35.0	your contentment from a Monday motivational post, recipes, videos of the
0:39.7	cooking show series, style and the core inspiration inspiration French and British inspired content and
0:44.8	reader's favorite regular weekly post this and that which is posted each
0:49.2	Friday morning now to today's episode. Welcome to the Simple Sophisticate Podcast, where intelligent living is paired with signature style.
1:16.2	I'm your host, Shannon Ables.
1:18.7	And whether you're listening on your commute, exercising, working in the garden, or sitting down with a hot cup of tea or a
1:25.0	cafe au lé, thank you for tuning in. Let's get started. Welcome to the 343rd episode of the Simple Sophisticate. Today I'm sitting
1:49.6	in my office here in Bend. It's the 1st of November and we are having a proper snowstorm. It has been
1:57.7	snowing since about I woke up with the pups about five and it was raining and then when I went back out of seven
2:05.4	we had a good two inches of snow and it has not stopped since.
2:08.8	It has been sitting right at the zero mark so 30 31 32 degrees and
2:15.6	Wow, it's been fun so anyway I'm sitting inside cozied up
2:20.7	Pups were asleep in the bed next to me, and I'm excited to talk with you about what
2:26.6	I found in a new book I just read.
2:29.5	And the timing has, perhaps as they often say, a book comes into your life when you're ready to you know really
2:37.3	Explore and hear and understand and absorb what you're reading and I have just either just had more time and more mental space to take in this new information
2:50.8	because this is not a topic we haven't talked about before.
2:54.3	It's just presented in a different way that I found to be very helpful, approachable, and I think
3:02.1	ultimately doable so that you want to actively and today or tomorrow dive into these approaches.
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