343. Confidence Code #4: The #1 Thing That Will Sabotage Your Confidence
Powerhouse Women
Lindsey Schwartz
4.9 • 912 Ratings
🗓️ 24 May 2022
⏱️ 27 minutes
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Summary
Comparison can be the number one thing that sabotages your confidence, but there are ways to actually make it the most impactful catalyst for your growth. By switching your focus to the people you want to serve instead of those that are further along in their journey, it helps reframe the comparative thoughts in a meaningful way. Noticing and admiring someone else's light is actually a reflection of your own potential. We can use comparison to empower ourselves and the people that we look up to. These new thoughts will eventually become beliefs if we practice transforming them in the moment and truly embodying them. Listen in to learn more about the fourth principle in the Confidence Code series!
In this episode we talk about:
- How comparison can chip away at your confidence
- Tools to create a different relationship with comparison
- Why we need to stop comparing our blooper reel to someone else's highlight reel
- Examples of how to consciously reframe comparative thoughts
- Using comparison as a way to empower yourself and the people around you
- Why I don't think comparison is always a bad thing
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EPISODE TIMELINE & DISCUSSION QUESTIONS
( 0:51 ) Welcome back to another episode of Powerhouse Women!
( 3:27 ) Lindsey introduces the topic of today's episode, which is all about reframing comparison.
( 7:11 ) Lindsey says, "When I say that I have struggled with comparing myself to other people, I mean it. And so I am here to tell you that you can absolutely reframe this, you can have a different relationship with comparison, because I don't think it's always a bad thing. It's how we interpret it."
( 8:08 ) Lindsey talks about the role that social media plays in how we compare ourselves to others.
( 10:15 ) Lindsey says, "A lot of times I'll compare my chapter 10 to someone else's chapter 50."
( 14:01 ) Lindsey says the first way to reframe comparative thoughts is to evaluate who you're focusing on.
( 16:30 ) Lindsey says, "Am I here to impress people? Or am I here to make an impact?"
( 16:55 ) Lindsey breaks down how to consciously reframe a comparative thought.
( 20:26 ) Lindsey explains why comparison isn't always a bad thing.
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( 25:45 ) Bonus materials for the episode can be found at powerhousewomen.co/confidence.
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | If you turn your focus to the people who you want to serve and you focus on what's one thing that you wish someone would have taught you when you were first starting out in your journey, now we are focusing our attention in the right direction. |
| 0:17.9 | Welcome to Powerhouse Women, the podcast for women who know they are ready for more. |
| 0:24.7 | I'm Lindsay Schwartz, your host and the founder of Powerhouse Women, |
| 0:28.6 | and together we'll unlock the confidence and clarity you are looking for |
| 0:33.3 | to help you get out of your own way and into action around your next big idea. |
| 0:51.3 | We are back with part four of a five-part series called Cracking the Confidence Code. |
| 0:59.3 | Over these five episodes, we are breaking down five ways to build confidence, silence, self-doubt, |
| 1:05.5 | and take bold action toward your big ideas. |
| 1:09.5 | Now, we've already talked about some pretty critical confidence |
| 1:13.0 | codes, things that if you're anything like me and have had to work at building up confidence, |
| 1:19.3 | maybe you've had to learn these lessons and apply them daily. I know I have. And we've talked |
| 1:24.3 | through how part of it, I think, is how we define confidence. The way that we view |
| 1:31.0 | confidence, the way that it shows up in our life may not be what we think it is. Like when you |
| 1:36.8 | actually tap into confidence, it might look very different than what you thought. And spoiler alert, |
| 1:42.8 | no one who's doing big things feels confident all the time. |
| 1:45.8 | So we talked about that in the first episode. The second episode, we went into what I think is |
| 1:50.5 | literally the most critical piece to understand. And it's going to tie in with what we talk about |
| 1:55.0 | today, which is that you don't always have to believe the thoughts that you think. You know, this inner |
| 2:02.6 | critic, this self-doubt voice that we all have is there to keep us safe. It's there to help us |
| 2:10.0 | avoid death, which unfortunately, or fortunately, I'm not sure, sometimes when we step out |
| 2:16.9 | to do something new, it feels to our body, |
| 2:20.3 | to our nervous system, as though we're risking our life. I don't know if you've ever noticed that |
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