334: Rediscovering your identity after kids; Attachment Theory; and Social Anxiety

Women's Wellness ON AIR WITH ELLA

Ella Lucas-Averett

Education, Health & Fitness, Fitness, Self-improvement, Alternative Health

5 • 699 Ratings

🗓️ 11 March 2024

⏱️ 33 minutes

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Summary

We're answering 2 listener questions:

how to overcome over-analyzing and self-doubt in social situations, and
how to find one's identity and purpose after kids.

We're talking about overcoming overanalyzing and insecurity, understanding attachment styles, building a relationship with oneself, and finding personal identity and purpose.

The more threatened we feel, the more we need to control. And if we can't control anything else, we'll control the narrative. - Tillie Harris

IN THIS EPISODE:

The role of the internal critic and its origin
The concept of attachment styles and their impact on relationships
How a fear of not being thought about can drive our behavior
Attachment styles and survival strategies
Why we overanalyze and assign negative motives to others
Training the brain to behave differently and remapping the story
AND...
How to find out what to do next
Being self-focused isn't being selfish
Your intuition will tell you...if you are listening
Starting where you are and practical resources to help

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0:00.0	Once you build a relationship with yourself, the sky is the limit. But until you know who you are
0:04.6	and what you do, there is a danger that you will sleepwalk and reach around for other people's
0:08.8	appraisals of things rather than your own. Welcome. You're on air with Ella, where we share
0:16.9	simple strategies and tips from people who are doing something better than we are.
0:21.7	Whether it's wellness or relationships to just living better and with more energy, or changing
0:26.7	your mindset to accomplish more in your own life and succeeding however you define it.
0:32.0	This is where we share the best of what we're learning from the experts, and we're learning
0:35.4	more every day.
0:37.2	Live better. start now.
0:39.4	Let's go. Hey, you're on air with Ella and I love doing shows like the show we are doing today
0:48.4	because you sent me a couple of voicemails. I have a phone number. It will be in the show notes
0:53.2	and I hope that anyone listening
0:56.1	that has a question that they want answered will be comfortable leaving a voicemail like two listeners
1:01.9	did for today's show. And whenever you have a question that I do not feel equipped to answer myself,
1:07.8	or my answer would not be of enormous value to you, I will always bring in
1:13.3	somebody to help me flush out the question, get to a solution, and provide you with expert
1:19.0	insights. That's what I've done today. I am so excited to welcome Tilly Harris back on the air.
1:26.3	Hey, Tilly. Hey, Ella. So many of you will know Tilly
1:30.1	already, but Tilly and I have been working together for like at least 10 years now, I think.
1:35.3	I think so. Yeah, and we've done retreats together and that sort of thing. And so whenever
1:39.3	folks are wrestling with issues that go deeper than they may appear on the surface. Tilly is my go-to
1:47.8	expert to bring into the room. So, Tilly, will you please tell everybody who you are and what you do?
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